'Life becomes easier
when you learn
to accept an apology you never got.'
Robert Brault
What Hurts?
❤ Who or what has hurt or betrayed you?
❤ What are you bitter about?
❤ Where in your heart of hearts do you feel life has done you wrong?
❤ How have you closed yourself off? What makes you hurt inside?
Getting Past the
Downside of Life
Sometimes life lets you down--that job you wanted that slipped through your fingers; that love interest who did you wrong; that organization that treated you poorly; that economy that failed you; that family member making your life miserable as they mess up their own; or that friend who slighted you without apology.
Sure, things happen in life leaving you feeling betrayed and bitter. But why let it keep you dug in and stuck for a lifetime? Acknowledge and name what you're feeling, and sit in your sorrow for a while. Then get ready to dig yourself out of the dark place and get on with living.
Sometimes life lets you down--that job you wanted that slipped through your fingers; that love interest who did you wrong; that organization that treated you poorly; that economy that failed you; that family member making your life miserable as they mess up their own; or that friend who slighted you without apology.
Sure, things happen in life leaving you feeling betrayed and bitter. But why let it keep you dug in and stuck for a lifetime? Acknowledge and name what you're feeling, and sit in your sorrow for a while. Then get ready to dig yourself out of the dark place and get on with living.
When you're ready to brush yourself off and get back on top of the world, let it go and move on. Why? --Because you're worth it.
Don't Belittle Yourself; Be Big Yourself
Corita Kent
'Be Big Yourself'
Consider how that hurt and bitterness you're harboring inside is getting
in the way of you freely engaging in or enjoying your life. What good things
would open up in your life if you let these soul-killing feelings go?
❤ Have you isolated yourself because you're hurt or bitter about how someone treated you?
❤ Have you failed to seek help for yourself to deal with the situation because you're bitter and angry because it's someone else's problem (e.g. attending Adult Child of Alcoholic or Al-anon/Alateen meetings.)?
❤ Have you refused invitations to get together with friends or family because you're home licking your wounds?
❤ Have you failed to apply for a job because you're bitter about the last
job interview?
❤ Did you fail to ask that new person out because the last one hurt you?
❤ Is that bitterness about making less than you deserve getting in the
way of you appreciating the good things in the job or zapping your energy
to look for a better paying job?
Let go feeling betrayed and bitter by acting from your BIG self--knowing you have what it takes to move through whatever challenge life presents you.
Start by acknowledging you're strong and you desire a fully-engaged life free from self-imposed constraints.
Treat yourself with compassion--know you're worthy of a life free from the constraints bitterness imposes on your way of life.
Cleanse Yourself of
Hurt and Bitterness
When you consciously
cleanse hard feelings out of your soul you make room for more uplifting and
positive experiences to show up.
You'll see
opportunities you were blind to when you stop wasting your energy nursing the
hurt and bitterness. Stop stuffing and harboring your bitter feelings; cleanse
them and move on.
'People
grow through experience
if they meet life honestly and courageously.
This is
how character is built.'
Eleanor Roosevelt
Forgive and
Release Hard Feelings
Do you care enough
about yourself to forgive and let
go of the bitterness?
Forgiving and letting go of the bitterness isn't
about the other person or organization--it is about freeing yourself to take
back your own power and sense of control.
The hardness and
bitterness you hold on to takes away your power; forgiveness and letting the
bitterness go gives you back your power.
Stand tall, stay calm, and remember
you have the power to move your life forward.
'Toss your dashed
hopes not into a trash bin
but into a drawer where you are likely to rummage
some bright morning.'
Robert Brault
For more than 35 years, Susan Meyerott has been helping people lighten up and step over invisible barriers to change one step at a time. She speaks to your heart, puts you at ease, and makes letting go and moving forward with life easier than ever before.
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