Feeling Betrayed and Bitter? Let Self-Imposed Constraints Go~Get on with Living

'Life becomes easier when you learn 

to accept an apology you never got.' 

Robert Brault

What Hurts?

❤ Who or what has hurt or betrayed you?

❤ What are you bitter about?

❤ Where in your heart of hearts do you feel life has done you wrong?

❤ How have you closed yourself off? What makes you hurt inside?

Getting Past the Downside of Life 

Sometimes life lets you down--that job you wanted that slipped through your fingers; that love interest who did you wrong; that organization that treated you poorly; that economy that failed you; that family member making your life miserable as they mess up their own; or that friend who slighted you without apology.

Sure, things happen in life leaving you feeling betrayed and bitter. But why let it keep you dug in and stuck for a lifetime? Acknowledge and name what you're feeling, and sit in your sorrow for a while. Then get ready to dig yourself out of the dark place and get on with living.

When you're ready to brush yourself off and get back on top of the world, let it go and move on. Why? --Because you're worth it.

Don't Belittle Yourself; Be Big Yourself

Corita Kent

'Be Big Yourself'

Consider how that hurt and bitterness you're harboring inside is getting in the way of you freely engaging in or enjoying your life. What good things would open up in your life if you let these soul-killing feelings go?

❤ Have you isolated yourself because you're hurt or bitter about how someone treated you? 

❤ Have you failed to seek help for yourself to deal with the situation because you're bitter and angry because it's someone else's problem (e.g. attending Adult Child of Alcoholic  or Al-anon/Alateen meetings.)?

❤ Have you refused invitations to get together with friends or family because you're home licking your wounds?

❤ Have you failed to apply for a job because you're bitter about the last job interview?

❤ Did you fail to ask that new person out because the last one hurt you?

❤ Is that bitterness about making less than you deserve getting in the way of you appreciating the good things in the job or zapping your energy to look for a better paying job?

Let go feeling betrayed and bitter by acting from your BIG self--knowing you have what it takes to move through whatever challenge life presents you. 

Start by acknowledging you're strong and you desire a fully-engaged life free from self-imposed constraints. 

Treat yourself with compassion--know you're worthy of a life free from the constraints bitterness imposes on your way of life.

Cleanse Yourself of Hurt and Bitterness

When you consciously cleanse hard feelings out of your soul you make room for more uplifting and positive experiences to show up. 

You'll see opportunities you were blind to when you stop wasting your energy nursing the hurt and bitterness. Stop stuffing and harboring your bitter feelings; cleanse them and move on.

'People grow through experience 

if they meet life honestly and courageously. 

This is how character is built.'  

Eleanor Roosevelt

Forgive and Release Hard Feelings

Do you care enough about yourself to forgive and let go of the bitterness? 

Forgiving and letting go of the bitterness isn't about the other person or organization--it is about freeing yourself to take back your own power and sense of control.

The hardness and bitterness you hold on to takes away your power; forgiveness and letting the bitterness go gives you back your power. 

Stand tall, stay calm, and remember you have the power to move your life forward.

  

 'Toss your dashed hopes not into a trash bin 

but into a drawer where you are likely to rummage some bright morning.' 

Robert Brault

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Overwhelmed? How to Slow Down and Start Over

Starting Over

If you've been struggling to regain your balance and sense of happiness after being knocked around by stress, illness, loss, or sadness open your doors to happiness by following these 3 time-tested keys to regain your momentum.

Stop and Start Over

 1. Take the First Step 

Not much has changed in the thousands of years humans have been facing and recovering from the hardships of life. As Lao Tzu stated so long ago, 'a journey of a thousand miles must begin with a single step'. 

We fuel our inner strength and sense of resiliency by taking action and walking through doors. But sometimes when faced with 'a journey of a thousand miles' we can be overwhelmed with the daunting task of where to begin. What is the first step? Which door to open first?

The good news is any first step will do. Your hope, resiliency, and personal strength will grow stronger with every step you take. It doesn't matter what the first step is. 

As you experience yourself being pro-active and physically taking action, your ability to cope and hope will improve. So start with a single step--any step-- and then take another.

2. Take Small Steps

An old Chinese Proverb says, 'The man who moved a mountain is the one who started taking away the small stones'. When you're in total overwhelm mode, start 'taking away the small stones'--one small step, then another. 

Unleash Your Enthusiasm by Slowing Down

3. Slow Down to Speed Up

Sometimes when life picks up speed that is the moment you need to slow down and just BE, experiencing life without trying to make it happen.

Provide yourself a respite from worry--a time free from focusing on your 'all important' future--a focus sure to keep your anxiety level high and you on constant fear-danger alert. 

Relax and enjoy where you are and what you have NOW. Experience your blessings--don't count them.

Stop pushing your body to the limits with a lack of sleep, exercise and nourishing food--while remaining in a constant state of emotional overload. Breathe.

Let The Sun Shine Again

How to Get Your Natural Rhythms Back in Place

• Start with the basics to nourish your body and rest your nerves. Your body likes a regular rhythm that includes regular heart beats, breaths, sleep patterns, eating times, moving times, and rest time. 
• Eat regular, well-balanced nourishing meals.
• Pace yourself--put a time limit on dealing with your difficulties--and take regular rest breaks.
• Go to bed early.
• Choose to have daily contact with uplifting, supportive people who can listen and encourage you in your strength.
• If you're caring for others, take care of yourself first, so you have the strength and endurance to continue to help others.

Slowly, Slowly Step Back In

Create Safety and Security

We all do our best thinking and acting when we do it from a place of feeling safe and secure. So when life feels out of control stop and start over. It may not be easy, but it is essential.

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Hold Your Horses! Horsing around is Serious Business

Tucker the Horse 

A Horse of a Different Color

'The imagination is a palette of bright colors. 

You can use it to touch up memories ~ 

or you can use it to paint dreams.' 

Robert Brault

Seahorse Calm

Go Slow to Go Fast

'One of the best pieces of advice I ever got was from a horse master. 

He told me to go slow to go fast. I think that applies to everything in life. 

We live as though there aren't enough hours in the day 

but if we do each thing calmly and carefully 

we will get it done quicker and with much less stress.' 

Viggo Mortensen

Plum Tuckered Out

When Your Mind Rides Faster You Tire Quicker

'When a man's mind rides faster 

than his horse can gallop they both quickly tire.' 

John Webster

The Spirited Horse Encouraged

'The spirited horse, which will try to win the race 

of its own accord, will run even faster if encouraged.' 

Ovid

'A horse never runs so fast 

as when he has other horses to catch up and outpace.' 

Ovid

Flaming Enthusiasm

'Flaming enthusiasm, backed up by horse sense and persistence, 

is the quality that most frequently makes for success.' 

Dale Carnegie

Ride Your Own Horse to the Finish Line

'You have got to decide, look, this is who I am; 

this is my best way to present myself, 

and I'm going to ride that horse to the finish line. 

Not everybody will like it, but that's OK.' 

Phil McGraw

 

Differences of Opinion Makes a Good Horse Race

'It is not best that we should all think alike; 

it is difference of opinion that makes horse races.' 

Mark Twain

A Weary Old Work Horse Loves Freedom

'A horse loves freedom, 

and the weariest old work horse will roll on the ground 

or break into a lumbering gallop when he is turned loose into the open.'  

Gerald Raferty

If you fall off a horse, you get back up

'It is not enough for a man to know how to ride; he must know how to fall.'  

Mexican Proverb

'I guess all songs is folk songs. I never heard no horse sing 'em.' 

Big Bill Broonzy

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Ram Dass:Namaste~I Honor the Divine in You

Namaste means I honor the place in you 

where the entire Universe resides.

I honor the place of love, of light, of truth, of peace.

I honor the place within you 

where if you are in that place in you, 

and I am in that place in me, 

there is only one of us.

Ram Dass

Live in the garden of compassion 

I pledge to honor that place within you 

so together we can make the world a place 

of love, light, truth, and peace. 

Lightarted Sue

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Will Rogers: Bubbling Over with Whimsical Wisdom

There are three kinds of men:
The ones that learn by reading.
The few who learn by observation.
The rest of them have to touch an electric fence.

Will Rogers

If you’re riding’ ahead of the herd, take a look back 

every now and then to make sure it’s still there.

Will Rogers

Lettin’ the cat outta the bag is a whole lot easier’n puttin’ it back.

Will Rogers

There are two theories to arguing with women….neither work.

Will Rogers

Even if you're on the right track, 

you'll get run over if you just sit there.

Will Rogers

It isn't what we don't know that gives us trouble, 

it's what we know that ain't so.

Will Rogers

The worst thing that happens to you 

may be the best thing for you 

if you don't let it get the best of you. 

Will Rogers

The Tail end of the Story

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