Einstein's Three Rules of Work: Find Simplicity, Harmony and Opportunity

'Three Rules of Work: Out of clutter find simplicity; from discord find harmony; in the middle of difficulty lies opportunity.' 

Albert Einstein

You knew Albert Einstein was brilliant, but who knew simplicity, harmony and opportunity were at the core of his work values?

Einstein's three rules of work really speaks to me. I like to think I have characteristics in common with him, but the common ground I share with him is a scientific mind that tends to create a bit of  chaos and clutter in my living and work environment.

To me, Einstein's three rules of work fit with Lao Tzu's quote, 'To the mind that is still, the whole universe surrenders.'

💙 When we sit quiet, out of clutter, simplicity emerges.

💚 When we sit quiet in the midst of discord, harmony emerges.

💜 When we sit quiet in the middle of difficulty, opportunity emerges.

Einstein might have named these the three rules to make life work. When we stay in chaos and crisis mode we are unable to find the simplicity, harmony and opportunity present in every situation. But take a breather or walk to calm the mind, and the whole universe surrenders to us.

Where Can you Apply This to your Life?

💙 What have you been hyped up about?

💚 Where in your life could you benefit from taking a breather to calm your mind?

💜 Where in your life would you like to find simplicity,harmony and opportunity?

Do it now

'To the mind that is still, the whole universe surrenders.'  

Lao Tzu

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Afraid to Make Mistakes? Get Over It!

'Doing one fool thing after another is not so terrible when you consider the human proclivity to do several fool things at once'   Robert Brault

Afraid to Look Foolish? Get Over it!

Are you so afraid to make a mistake you never take a step? Lighten up! Get out there and mess up. 

• Fail Big
• Fall on your Face
• Embarrass Yourself Big Time

 ......just stay involved experimenting with life.

What Makes You Feel Foolish?

• Asking someone for a date.
• Letting others know you're looking for a relationship.
• Letting others know you're looking for a job.
• Letting others know you've been on unemployment a long time and you really want a job.
• Applying for a job you know 100 others applied for.
• Speaking up in a meeting.
• Saying 'I Love You'.
• Admitting you made a mistake.
• Asking for help.
• Admitting you feel foolish.

Step into Life

We are wired to learn from our mistakes. The key to moving your life forward is to continually take a step--any step--that has the potential for a positive outcome.

'Don't belittle yourself be BIG yourself', says Corita Kent. It takes a big person to get out there, be foolish, and make mistakes in the course of living life. Set your sights on what you want -- a good job, a healthy relationship, a healthy body--and continually take small steps in the direction of that goal. Sometimes playing the fool isn't so foolish after all.

'One is more apt to become wise by doing fool things than by reading wise sayings.'  Robert Brault

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Job Hunting: How to Turn Negative Emotions into Positive Actions

'Toss your dashed hopes not into a trash bin but into a drawer where you are likely to rummage some bright morning.'     Robert Brault


Have you or someone you know been laid off?

Getting laid off can be scary and demoralizing. Unless you take charge of your emotions as you seek new work, the overwhelming sense of fear and failure can immobilize you. What can you do to get yourself on a positive, hopeful job hunting path?

Six Tips for Maintaining Your Sanity and Hope Job Hunting

To get off on the right foot daily, you must begin by dealing with the fear, stress, anxiety, anger, shame--and other negative emotions generated by your layoff.

Take steps to transform your negative emotions into positive actions each and every day. Here are six tips for daily actions to help you maintain your sanity and hope during your job hunt.

At the beginning of each day choose to:

1.  Stop and Start over. Consciously center yourself each day. Fear, anger, and anxiety work against you and wastes your energy. Choose to harness your energy and enthusiasm.

2.  Concentrate on Facts, not Fears. Decide on one active step to take each day rather than letting fear immobilize you. Approach your job search factually. Take the emotion out.

3.  Be on a Search for the Truth. Take a step--any step--down a path with the potential for a positive outcome without knowing if it is the right path or if you'll get the job. this is the key to 'stepping over the invisible barriers to taking action'.

4.  Make no Judgments & Cast no Blame. Let go of anger or internal judgment about what happened to cause the layoff. It is what it is. If you fail to hear back from someone after you call or send a resume, don't move into self-blame or analyzing what an a-hole the person is. Move on or take the next step.

5.  Envision the Best Possible Future. The key is to see what you want, not what you fear.  Every day, take the first five minutes of your day to describe and focus on your ideal job. If you want to work on it longer, do it.

6.  Plan your work and work your plan. Take the time to list concrete actions that will move you towards landing a new position and find ways to include others who can help you.

'Tough times don't last...tough people do'  Robert H Schuller

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How to Replace Negative Thoughts with Positive Beliefs

'Thinking will not overcome fear, but action will.'  W. Clement Stone

What Beliefs Lead Your Life and Actions? 

 The messages leading our lives and actions are everywhere--in newspapers, TV and the internet; in our communications and actions; in our photos, art, and music.

Every day we're bombarded with messages running the gamut from life-affirming to fear-creating--and we're letting them influence us. Unless we pause to consciously choose which ones we let in, those negative ones heightening our fear response are the ones most likely to get into our psyches.

Fear, Anxiety and Anger Don't Need Help Getting In

 Unfortunately fear-creating messages don't need help getting into our brains. Because they come fully-packed with a strong emotional charge they get fast-tracked in as the fear whips through our body and there they stay until we work to get the negativity out.

But it doesn't have to be that way. You can choose to let more positive thoughts take up residence in your brain leading to more positive actions by taking your cue from the power of fear and anger producing thoughts. 

Take a Lesson from the Bad Boys--Fear, Anxiety and Anger

The problem with positive, life-affirming messages, such as 'All is Well in my World' is they are so very nice. They fail to slam you in the gut like the bad boys--fear, anxiety and anger.The lesson to be learned from the success of negative thoughts slipping in is the brain loves and attends to messages with strong emotional and visual impact.

'The lesson to be learned from the success of negative thoughts is the brain loves and attends to messages with strong emotional and visual impact.'

To remedy the situation find ways to present positive, calming, affirming messages with strong emotional and visual impact. The stronger the meaning you give a message, the more your brain attends to it.

Here's the thing--your brain doesn't remember facts, it remembers meaning. So the more meaning you give something, the more it takes root in your memory. 

'Your brain doesn't remember facts, it remembers meaning.'

Focus Your Attention on the Positive Messages

Rather than glancing at the affirmation 'All Is Well in my World' and moving on with your day, stop and do something with it ~React to it ~ Talk about it ~ Redesign it ~ Apply it ~ Go for a walk and ponder it. When you experience a discrepancy between what you believe and how you act, you will change your beliefs to match your actions. Choose positive actions and positive beliefs will follow.

  

• What meaning does 'All Is Well in my World' have for you today? 
• What can you do to apply it to your life?
• What is getting in the way of you accepting this message as true for you right now?
• How can you switch from accepting fear-based messages to accepting everything is well in your world?

Create Eye and Heart Candy for the Brain 

Rather than reading the words in positive messages, actively respond to them. Turn the messages into pieces of art or postcards to send on to others. The more color you use creating positive artful messages, the more meaning you give them. And the more you share them with others, the deeper the messages get in your own psyche.

All is Well in my World

Let go of the fear. All is well.

What beliefs are you affirming through your actions?

• When you get out for that daily walk or bike ride you affirm you're healthy and active.
• When you stay involved in serving your community you confirm you're connected.
• When you celebrate other's good fortune in getting or keeping a job, you affirm your own good fortune is on its way.
• When you pass on life-affirming messages to others you affirm your own desire to create  life-affirming actions.

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Developing Trust and Connecting with Others

'I've learned people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.'  Maya Angelou

How High is Your 'Hello Factor'?

Go ahead--run an experiment—starting right now, consciously greet and acknowledge each and every person who crosses your path for the next 24 hours. Notice--as you increase your 'Hello Factor' does your 'Happiness Factor' increase?

Hello ~ Bonjour ~ Hola ~ Ciao ~ Hey There

"Good morning!"
"Have a nice day."

"Nice chatting."
"Good to meet you."
"Love you."
"Be well."
"Peace be with you."

Greeting another when your paths cross is such a simple social grace. It takes no time to look another in the eye, smile, and offer a simple greeting--and it does so much to ground you and improve your connection with others.

On the other hand, when you fail to acknowledge and greet people--whether co-worker, family, or stranger—you leave the others feeling invisible, unwelcome and disliked. As a result you end up feeling disconnected and isolated yourself.

When you fail to acknowledge and greet people you leave them feeling invisible, unwelcome and disliked.

To Feel Connected Make Others Feel Welcome

We all do our best work, bring our best discussions and enjoy connecting with the people around us when we feel welcome and appreciated.

No matter what the situation, we all want to feel others are happy to be with us. From our first day of work to our last, we want to feel welcome and included in the workplace. When we join online discussions, family gatherings, or social groups we want to feel like a welcome addition.

The art of making people feel welcome is simple. In all situations convey the four messages all people want to hear:

The Four Messages All People Want to Hear

I'm glad I'm here.
I'm glad you're here.
I care about you.
I know that I know.

You don't have to actually say those words--you need to convey the four welcoming messages through your actions. The simple social nicety of greeting people is a great first step. When you convey these four messages to the people you interact with you'll discover you connect with people faster--and your own happiness factor will rise.

Check it out: Are You Connecting?

• How do you make the people around you feel? When you're comfortable with yourself others feel comfortable with you. Be other conscious, not self-conscious. Reach out to others with a kind comment and smile.
• Do you practice the art of making others feel welcome and connected? Or are you so concerned about making an impression, getting your work done, and finding the next opportunity that you can't be bothered with how you make others feel? The key to connecting with others is to make them feel you have all the time in the world for them in a few short moments of greetings.

‎"A smile is a light in the window of the soul indicating that the heart is at home." Anon

Thank you to Kim Miller for this quote.

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Staying Positive During Life Transitions

'The best way to live is to be, simply be.'  Yogi Bhajan

Unsettling Times of Transition

Are you finding it difficult to stay positive in today's crazy world of work?

Sure, the economy is slowly recovering, but it still has its ups and downs. You may find yourself in the middle of either making a transition or thinking about making a transition in your career.

But with all the uncertainty about the future, you may be left feeling lethargic, unsettled, and unmotivated to take the next step.

Perhaps you're:

• Unemployed and still without a job after months of searching;
• Employed, but in a job you hate and feel compelled to keep, even though you fear you may be next on the chopping block;
• An independent business owner whose business is failing in the current economy, but you lack the energy to develop a new business plan.
• A recent college graduate worried about finding the right job to launch your career.

Change from Future Tense to Present Ease


 No matter who you are, or what your work situation is, when you're in the middle of a transition it's always unsettling--leading you to freeze up, and become frozen in inactivity and inertia.

 What makes you tense is your focus on the future. You fear what won't happen that you want to have happen, or you fear what will happen that you don't want to happen.

 When you feel overwhelmed and stuck in 'future tense', it's time to stop, take a breath, and ease back into the present. Get off the worry track. Take a day off from thinking about 'your situation', and engage in activities that let you know you are glad to be alive.

'The best day—Going to bed with a dream, waking up with a purpose.' Exceptional Living

Be--Just Be

Tough times require, well, sometimes, sitting back, doing nothing, and thinking about something else.

 Sometimes we just need to stop to remember--life is to be enjoyed. Instead of letting your life be determined by fear and worry, focus on putting memorable activities into your life each day.

 To stay positive during times of transition, find a way to do something of great personal importance each day so you can 'write on your heart that every day is the best day of the year'.

 What Gives Your Life Meaning?

What is one activity of great personal importance you could engage in today that would let you write on your heart 'today is the best day of the year'?

Don't think about it--do it.

'And we should consider every day lost on which we have not danced at least once.'  Friedrich Nietzsche

 

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Mark Twain Makes Learning Easy

'A man who carries a cat by the tail learns something he can learn in no other way.' Mark Twain

Carrying a Cat by the Tail

Mark Twain can evoke an image like no other and bring it home to rest. Today's Twain-ism elicited a full out belly laugh in me, swiftly followed by the image of carrying a cat by the tail searing into my brain.

While I've never actually carried a cat by its tail, I know exactly what it means ---and you do too.

The Shocking Truth

We often choose our learning lessons, by bucking the wise counsel of others or our own better judgment. Sometimes we just have to step in and experience that wild ride for ourselves. We suspect what we're about to do is not a good idea, but we're going with it any way.

As a kid growing up surrounded by cow pastures and orchards, I spent a lot of time running around with neighborhood kids exploring the world around us. One day a pack of us decided it would be fun to touch an electric fence with all of us holding hands just to see what would happen. The person at the front of the line touched the fence with a single piece of wet grass and that current whipped through our bodies, zapping us with a wallop.

Did I suspect it was a bad idea? Yep. Did I do it anyway? Yep. Did I do it again? Nope. Like carrying a cat by the tail, I learned first-hand why that wasn't such a good idea--and I've never forgotten the experience.

Up Close and Personal Experiences--and a Good Story

But not all 'carrying a cat by the tail' experiences go against our good judgment. They're just great up close and personal experiences, like my shocking experience, that pack their own wallop--meaningful, relevant, interesting and fun.

A full 75% of the population in the United States learns best through experience. And the other 25% of us who just imagine and learn? We, too, benefit greatly through hands-on, interactive learning. Nothing gets something into our memory and enhances our learning like hands-on, cat-by-the-tail experience--and a good story.

Don't expect to just read that instruction manual and expect to retain the contents. It's boring. Do something with the information instead--something interactive--it'll stick better. And if the way you interact with the information creates a great, outlandish image or story, it's all the better for helping you remember the details.

Mark Twain was the master of outlandish. And that's why we remember so many of his sayings. So liven up your daily learning experiences by taking a cue from the master himself. Find your own outrageous (but safe) way to shoot that needed information into your brain.

Design Your Own Carry-a-Cat-by-the-Tail Learning Experience

·         Where in your life do you need to step in and gain first-hand experience?

·         What outlandish image, story or experience can you create to make the learning experience more relevant, meaningful and fun?

P.S. No animals were harmed in the process of writing this post!



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Happy Mother's Day

Happy Mother's Day

Cherish is the word I use to describe

all the feelings that I have for you deep inside.

A tribute to all of our dear mothers,

present or passed.

There is no bond more important than

the bond between mother and child.

Hold a place in your heart to

cherish the relationship with your mother.

Keep her close to your heart year round.

Mothers, cherish your children,

and let them know how deeply they are loved

every day of the year.

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Get Better Sleep with Sweet Dreams Bedtime Routine

By letting it go it all gets done. The world is won by those who let it go. But when you try and try the world is beyond the winning.  Lao Tzu

 
Let it all Go

 Is insomnia--or the inability to get and stay asleep--disrupting your ability to stay focused and productive at work? Are you having difficulty falling asleep, staying asleep, or both?  Give this sweet dreams bedtime routine a try.

Insomnia is a common sleep disorder affecting workers juggling tight deadlines and stressing over job security. In this chicken and egg situation, work stress and worry can prevent you from getting enough quality sleep, and poor quality sleep can prevent you from being focused and productive at work.

A Poor Night Sleep

·         Makes you drowsy and ineffective at work

·         Affects your memory and ability to learn

·         Makes it difficult to think clearly

A Good Night Sleep

·         Gives you a better outlook on the day

·         Refreshes you

·         Keeps you alert and engaged

Sweet Dreams Bedtime Routine

If work worries and pressures are disrupting your ability to wind down and gain restful sleep use this sweet dreams bedtime routine to ease you out of high drive.

·         Turn off computer. The physical act of shutting down your computer signals your mind to shut off too.

·         Turn down lights. Your body takes cues from the environment. Dimming lights signals your body it's time to wind down.

·         Take warm bath or shower. The warmth of the water relaxes your muscles.

·         Turn on soothing music. Lie down in bed with your eyes closed listening to the music. Focus on your breathing--breathe slowly and deeply for 15 minutes—inhale for four counts, and exhale for eight—timing your breaths to the music. Sleep.

Sweet Dreams!

'To sleep, perchance to dream.' Shakespeare

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Life Knock You a Blow? Three Timeless Tips for Starting Over

 

 

No matter how hard the past, you can always begin again. The Buddha

 

What's happening in your life right now?

• Do you feel like you've dodged a bullet when you see what other people are dealing with yet you're still fearful about your future?
• Have you faced so many hardships and challenges you're left feeling hopeless and discouraged about ever finding your way back to a normal life?
• Are you tired of thinking about your current situation and just wish someone would do something about it?

How to Start Over

 

When things get really tough it can be difficult to see your way out. Here are 3 timeless tips to starting over and getting unstuck after having your life disrupted by economic hardship, natural disaster, or personal crises.

 

1. Take the First Step

Not much has changed in the thousands of years humans have been facing and recovering from the hardships of life. As Lao Tzu stated so long ago, 'a journey of a thousand miles must begin with a single step'.

 

We fuel our inner strength and sense of resiliency by taking action. But sometimes when faced with 'a journey of a thousand miles' we can be overwhelmed with the daunting task of where to begin. What is the first step?

 

The good news is any first step will do. Your hope, resiliency, and personal strength will grow stronger with every step you take. It doesn't matter what the first step is. As you experience yourself being pro-active and physically taking action, your ability to cope and hope will improve. So start with a single step--any step-- and then another.

 

2. Take Small Steps

As an old Chinese Proverb says, 'The man who moved a mountain is the one who started taking away the small stones'. When you're in total overwhelm mode, start 'taking away the small stones'--one small step, then another.

 

3. Build a Nest in the Eye of the Storm

 

As Anthropologist, Margaret Mead, traveled on her life adventure, change and uncertainty were a way of life. Her grandmother--a major influence in Margaret's life-- sent her on her journey with the sage advice to 'Always build a nest in the eye of the storm'.

 

This grandmotherly wisdom has had a strong influence in my own life. Whenever major life events cause upheaval in my life, my mind returns to this saying, and I think how important it is to apply to my own life.

 

One thing I know--when you're in the middle of a crisis, the hardest thing is to think of taking care of yourself. You can forget to nourish your body, push your body to the limits with lack of sleep, and remain in a constant state of emotional overload. If you can allow yourself to focus on building a nest in the eye of the storm, you can begin to create a cushion to rest and space for thinking.

 

But what does it mean to build a nest in the eye of the storm? When life is swirling around you like a hurricane--you find a way to create a home-base of comfort-- or nest-- from which you can rebuild your daily existence.

 

Start with the basics to nourish your body and rest your nerves. Your body likes a regular rhythm that includes regular heart beats, breaths, sleep patterns, eating times, moving times, and rest time.

 

Start by getting your natural rhythms back in place. Eat regular, well-balanced meals that nourish you. Pace yourself--put a time limit on dealing with your difficulties--and take regular rest breaks. Go to bed early. If you're caring for others, take care of yourself first, so you have the strength and endurance to continue to help others.

 

We all do our best thinking and acting when we do it in a place of safety and security. The key is to find a way to create your nest---no matter what storm is brewing. It may not be easy, but it is essential.

 

Life is a cycle, always in motion; if good times have moved on, so will times of trouble! Indian Proverb


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Mothers, Herding Cats, and Laughter

'Common sense and a sense of humor are the same thing, moving at different speeds. A sense of humor is just common sense, dancing.'  William James

 Mothers--Chief Cat Herders

My mother used to say she raised 'all Chiefs and no Indians', when referring to her tribe of six independent children. I'd say she was the family's Chief Cat Herder.

This very proper, self-described 'fifth generation Washingtonian' from the District of Columbia raised six California wild cats while keeping a clean house--and most importantly--her sense of humor. My son related to my mother's good humor by saying 'I'm from your side of the family---the enjoying side of the family'.

Thanks to my mother, I learned to deal with life and strife with a sense of humor.

Laughter IS the Best Medicine

My mother--or Moo--as we called her--would often say 'laughter is the best medicine', and she'd demonstrate the truth of that belief daily as she sought to find the humor in situations and respond to trying life situations with good hearted laughter. I am so grateful to have learned the importance of keeping my sense of humor no matter what the situation from her.

I still remember the night my father was out of town on business one beautiful summer evening when my siblings and I stayed out late playing kick-the-can in the neighborhood. Our mother called and called us to come home but not one of us answered.

When we finally dragged our tails home she was hopping mad and promised a spanking for us all. As she herded us into the back bedroom to carry out the punishment, children wandered this way and that into other bedrooms and bathrooms on their way to their predictable single swat on the rear end.

Finally herding us into one room she lined us up by age to spank us in order from oldest to youngest. My oldest sister, Jean, got the first swat on the behind, followed by my brother, John. My mother burst out laughing as soon as her hand connecting with his rear made a metallic pinging noise . On his way to his swat-on-the-behind my brother had stopped at the sewing machine to grab the metal lid off the sewing tin so he could stuff it in his pants to thwart the whack. My mother's surprised laughter relieved the tension of the moment--and the rest of us got off scott-free.

Cat Herders Must have a Sense of Humor

Moo taught us the keys to herding cats:

• Don't try to control them--find ways to catch their attention instead.
• Love and support their independence and individuality. 
• Enjoy and respect them.
• Keep your sense of humor.

So many times as an adult I have viewed my experience of working to bring together a group of independent people all going their separate ways as herding cats. This always makes the task easier. No matter how frustrated I am by the current herding experience, the minute I picture myself herding cats it puts a smile on my face and lets me relax into the experience. I know that to accomplish the impossible task of cat herding the key is to accept and respect the individuals for who they are and to find a way to enjoy the challenge of engaging their attention.

Someone sent me this YouTube video Cowboys Herding Cats and the first time I watched it I split a gut laughing. It really gives you a visual for the metaphor of herding cats.

If you, too,  find yourself playing the role of Chief Cat Herder--attempting to corral a group of people all going their separate ways at work or at home--give yourself something to laugh about. View this 1 minute video now and save it  to view later to relieve your frustration. As my mother always said, laughter and keeping your sense of humor is the best medicine!


'Do not meddle in the affairs of dragons, for you are crunchy and taste good with ketchup.' Unknown



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You are not the mistakes you have made; You are the lessons you have learned says Chris Cook

 'Experience is the toughest teacher because she gives the test first, and then the lesson.' Unknown 


Good Enough to Steal

When I read Chris Cook's  blog post-- 'You are not the mistakes you have made; You are the lessons you have learned'-- I wanted to steal it.  I know, not very ethical--but there you have it--the truth. This short post on her website, Capiche, is brilliant and simple.

Don't Steal it--Apply it

Okay, so to to help me stay in integrity and also give you something to think about I am providing you a link to Capiche so you can learn about the four stages of learning any new skill. Take a peek, think about it, and apply it.

Chris Cook, currently training to be a certified coach at the Coaches Training Institute, specializes in the science of happiness,and promotes the development of psychological capital to help individuals and businesses achieve their potential.





'What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters, compared to what lies within us.'  Ralph Waldo Emerson



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Are You a Bore? Three Tips to Lead More Effective Meetings

'Never miss a good chance to shut up.'  Will Rogers

Tired of standing in front of Monday morning meetings sounding like the teacher in Ferris Bueller's Day Off ? "Beuller? Beuller? Beuller? Anyone?" If you're leading meetings people can't wait to get out of, use these trainer tips to turn your meetings into lively and engaging discussion groups that promote team work and produce employees fully-invested in the discussions.

Stop Talking. Do you think you control the meeting and message by doing all the talking yourself? Not true. When you’re the only one talking you're the only one listening. While you're enjoying the sound of your own voice, everyone else is entertaining themselves doodling, making lists of what to get at the store, and passing notes. All they hear you say is "blah, blah, blah, blah….any questions?" To gain control, you must give it up—starting with the need to hear yourself speak.

Start Listening. If you really want to get something done, redefine meetings as a place where you listen while everyone else interacts. Set up the discussion then shut up. Nothing makes you look more brilliant to others than when you artfully set up meetings so everyone is actively engaged in presenting their ideas.

Make it easy to speak up. Even the most outgoing professional may be reluctant to speak up in a large meeting--especially if put on the spot. To make it easy for attendees to fully participate, break the larger group into discussion pairs. Give people five minutes to discuss an issue in duos before asking them to engage in a large group discussion. Ask for volunteers to speak up and share what they think when you reconvene. You may be surprised by the free flow of ideas. When people are engaged in their own discovery process, the meeting is never boring.

 'If you're riding' ahead of the herd, take a look back every now and then to make sure it's still there.'  Will Rogers

 Make it easy for colleagues to want to attend your meetings

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