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Tuesday, May 30, 2017

Making Connections and Building Trust: The Four Messages All People Want to Hear

"A smile is a light in the window of the soul indicating that the heart is at home." Anon

Hello ~ Bonjour ~ Hola ~ Ciao ~ Hey There

Greeting another when your paths cross is such a simple social grace. It takes no time to look another in the eye, smile, and offer a simple greeting--and it does so much to ground you and improve your connection with others.

On the other hand, when you fail to acknowledge and greet people--whether co-worker, family, or stranger—you leave the others feeling invisible, unwelcome and disliked. As a result you end up feeling disconnected and isolated yourself.
When you fail to acknowledge and greet people you leave them feeling invisible, unwelcome and disliked.
Good morning

Have a nice day.

Nice chatting.

Good to meet you.

Love you.

Be well.

Peace be with you.

May the force be with you.

Hello! How unique you are~a fish out of water!

To Feel Connected Make Others Feel Welcome

We all do our best work, bring our best discussions, and enjoy connecting with the people around us when we feel welcome and appreciated.

No matter what the situation, we all want to feel others are happy to be with us. From our first day of work to our last, we want to feel welcome and included in the workplace. When we join online discussions, family gatherings, or social groups we want to feel like a welcome addition--especially if we're feeling like a fish out of water.
The art of making people feel welcome is simple. In all situations convey the four messages all people want to hear.

The Four Messages All People Want to Hear

💙 I'm glad I'm here.
💚I'm glad you're here.
💛 I care about you.
💜 I know that I know.

You don't have to actually say those words; you need to convey the four welcoming messages through your actions. The simple social nicety of greeting people is a great first step. When you convey these four messages to the people you interact with you'll discover you connect with people faster--and your own happiness factor will rise.

'I've learned people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.'  
Maya Angelou

Are You Connecting and Building Trust?

How do you make the people around you feel? Do you practice the art of making others feel welcome and connected? Do your actions convey to others you're happy to be here and happy they're here? Do your non-verbal messages convey you care about the other people or that you're concerned with yourself?

Are you so fixated on your own imperfections you fail to reach out to others? Are you so concerned about making an impression, getting your work done, and finding the next opportunity you can't be bothered with how you make others feel? 

💓 When you're comfortable with yourself others feel comfortable with you. 

💓 Remember~while you see yourself for what you aren't, others see you for what you are. 

💓 Practice being other-conscious, not self-conscious. Let go of fixating on your imperfections and put your focus on making others feel welcome instead.

💓 Reach out to others with a kind comment and smile.

The key to connecting with others is to make them feel you have all the time in the world for them in a few short moments of greetings. Practice conveying the four messages all people want to hear.

How High is Your 'Hello Factor'?

Go ahead--run an experiment—consciously greet and acknowledge each and every person who crosses your path for the next 24 hours. Notice--as you increase your 'Hello Factor' does your 'Happiness Factor' increase? As you focus on welcoming others, does your self-consciousness fade away?

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For more than 35 years, Susan Meyerott has been helping people lighten up and step over invisible barriers to change one step at a time. She speaks to your heart, puts you at ease, and makes letting go and moving forward with life easier than ever before.

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