Tension is Who You Think You Should Be~Relaxation is Who You Are

What's Up? 

What's Bothering You?

💚What's happening in your life at this moment? 

💚What's making you feel tense?

💚What do you feel you should be doing you're not?

💚How are you failing to live up to someone else's expectations or your own?

 'All this stuff is getting to me' is just one of many seemingly benign statements we might make to others that allows us to remain seemingly in-control as we voice our tension. 

But to truly be in-control, and act decisively and with purpose we need to move beyond the diffuse terms keeping us stuck and mired in a cesspool of fear and anxiety.

To let go of the things 'putting you over the edge'  you need to identify what it is, and then deal with it.

When you ignore or deny the existence of your stress you leave those things eating away at you to boil and fester until they spew out and splatter everyone around you.

What's Lurking in the Underbrush of Your Life? 

The Last Three Days 

Looking over the last three days, what's stressing you out? Pick one situation to describe in uncensored detail in your head--and let it rip!

As you focus on the recent tension-inducing incident notice any changes in your body as you merely think about it:

💚What happens to your heart rate and breathing? 

💚Do you notice any discomfort in your head or stomach? 

💚Are you aware of clenching your teeth or tightening your jaw; tension in your neck, back or other muscles? 

💚Do you feel tearful or angry?

Our stress-inducing experience has the ability to cause tension as we merely think about it. We don't even need to experience it to bring the stress-response on. That's why it's important to name it so you can stop stuffing it.

Relaxation is Who You Are

Get Back to Who You Are

'Tension is who you think you should be; Relaxation is who you are'.  Chinese Proverb

What does 'tension is who you think you should be; relaxation is who you are' mean? It means living your life from a place of 'shoulds' is what causes problems. 

Living in the 'world of should'  creates the tension and discomfort that throws us into a mental fog and leaves us feeling overwhelmed and tense. 

If you care about being your healthiest, most robust self, choose to consciously identify what's causing you tension and bringing out the full stress-response in your body. Don't ignore it. Choose to name your stressor, and choose to engage in actions that puts you back living in a state of relaxation and who you really are.

Trust you hold the key to being your best, truly in-charge self. Act on what you know to be right for you. Take the steps that will help you feel fully alive, fully productive, and fully engaged. Be brave.

Be Your Healthiest, Most Robust Self

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For more than 35 years, Susan Meyerott has been helping people lighten up and step over invisible barriers to change one step at a time. She speaks to your heart, puts you at ease, and makes letting go and moving forward with life easier than ever before.

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