Let Go of the Past Gracefully

~The Graces~ 

The givers of charm, creativity, and beauty

If you're looking for ways to move beyond past hurts and grievances with ease and grace, consider inviting 'the three Graces' from Greek mythology to inhabit your heart and soul.

Like me, you've probably forgotten who the three Graces are--so you may have a hard time inviting them to dwell in your heart--especially if you're feeling hurt, stuck and generally suspicious of life. No matter. Time to get reacquainted with the lighter side of the Goddess within.

The Three Goddess Sisters

Embracing the Goddess Within 

💛The Graces of Greek mythology are the three sister Goddesses of grace, beauty, joy, mirth, festivity, dance and song, and are known as 'the givers of charm and beauty'.

💓The Graces, are the goddesses who give 'festive joy' and enhance 'the enjoyments of life' through refinement and gentleness.  

If you choose to embrace and embody the attributes of the three Graces, you'll choose to practice the fine art of gracefulness in your all your social interactions--both past and present--preferring to move through life with elegance and ease.  

'These enchanting goddesses--The Graces--were created to fill the world with pleasant moments and goodwill.'

Greek poet Pindar

The Goddess of Graceful Living

Perfecting the Art of Graceful Living

As a 'Goddess of Graceful Living' you consciously choose an inner life of goodwill over an inner life of grievances--choosing to find ways to create festive joy and gentleness in your own heart first and foremost. 


The key to letting go of the past gracefully is to let go of ways of thinking that no longer serve you, while taking on ways of thinking that create goodwill, calm and festive joy in your inner world. 

Saving Grace

Let Go Gracefully

Our saving grace is we really do desire to have a life filled with good relationships and experiences. As much as we'd love to secretly harbor our resentments and ill-will towards those who've offended us, there is a stronger desire to be unencumbered by these hurts. 

Let the Goddesses of Grace take up residence within you and let go of what no longer serves you.

Unload ways of thinking that no longer serves you

💓Who or what has hurt you? Let it go
💙What have you lost that grieves you? Let it go
💛What's happened that's holding you back from moving on with life gracefully? Let it go

Embrace ways of thinking that bring you 'festive joy'

💓Who or what do you think of that gives you festive joy? Embrace it.

💙What have you gained in your life that makes your heart sing? Embrace it.

💛What's happened in your life to help you move on with grace and ease? Embrace it.

“You become what you think about all day long.” Ralph Waldo Emerson

Let The Three Graces Inhabit Your Soul

The Three Graces 

💛Aglaia~The Grace of Beauty 

💓Euphrosyne~The Grace of Delight 

💙Thalia~The Grace of Blossom 

As a 'Goddess of Graceful Living' you consciously choose an inner life of goodwill over an inner life of grievances--choosing to find ways to create festive joy and gentleness in your own heart first and foremost. 

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For more than 35 years, Susan Meyerott has been helping people lighten up and step over invisible barriers to change one step at a time. She speaks to your heart, puts you at ease, and makes letting go and moving forward with life easier than ever before.

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Give it a Rest, Already!

Up Above the World so High

Problems piling up?

Worries keeping you up at night?

Give it a Rest, Already!

Hope  

"Hope is the thing with feathers

That perches in the soul,

And sings the tune without the words,

And never stops at all."

Let it Gently Float Away

"And sweetest in the gale is heard;

And sore must be the storm

That could abash the little bird

That kept so many warm."

Sleep on It

"I've heard it in the chilliest land,

And on the strangest sea;

Yet, never, in extremity,

It asked a crumb of me."

Emily Dickinson 

Rise Above it~and Let it Go

Listen to the Exhortation of the Dawn! 

"Listen to the Exhortation of the Dawn! 

Look to this Day! 

For it is Life, the very Life of Life. 

In its brief course lie all the 

Verities and Realities of your Existence. 

The Bliss of Growth, 

The Glory of Action, 

The Splendor of Beauty; 

For Yesterday is but a Dream, 

And Tomorrow is only a Vision; 

But Today well lived makes 

Every Yesterday a Dream of Happiness, 

And every Tomorrow a Vision of Hope. 

Look well therefore to this Day! 

Such is the Salutation of the Dawn!" 

Kalidasa, 5^th century Sanskrit poet

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Fate Leads the Willing and Drags the Reluctant

FATE LEADS THE WILLING

AND DRAGS THE RELUCTANT

SENECA

GIDDY-UP!

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For more than 35 years, Susan Meyerott has been helping people lighten up and step over invisible barriers to change one step at a time. She speaks to your heart, puts you at ease, and makes letting go and moving forward with life easier than ever before.

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May today be the day you achieve your heart's desire.

May today be the day a stranger points you in the right direction.

May today be the day you find what you're looking for.

May today be the day you pocket your dreams and carry them with you.

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For more than 35 years, Susan Meyerott has been helping people lighten up and step over invisible barriers to change one step at a time. She speaks to your heart, puts you at ease, and makes letting go and moving forward with life easier than ever before.

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How to be Calm and In-Control When You Feel Anything But

"Anyhow, the short answer is 'No'; the long answer is 'Hell No!'"

Fit-to-be-Tied 

The other day I had a call from a woman who was fit-to-be-tied. She took a break from work so she could cool down after being blindsided by a colleague who wanted to put her back on a dysfunctional team she just left. 

Surprised and hurt, she blurted out an emphatic 'NO!' before she called me to unleash her frustration and anger in a safe place.

We're programmed to experience the full gamut of emotions, including anger, rage, frustration and fear, and there's nothing wrong with us when we're moved to outrage and feeling out-of-control. Outrage is a normal, healthy response to our boundaries being breached--yet it feels so awful, we're driven to get back to a calmer state as soon as possible.

So the question is, what can you do to regain your calm and sense of control sooner? In other words, how do you regain your calm and sense of control when you feel anything but?

How to Communicate like an Adult when you feel like a Child

In a hot moment of feeling pushed out-of-control by the actions of others, this young woman responded in just the right way to put her back on the road to feeling calm and in-control.  

While it may not have felt like it in the moment, once she was hit with a situation that made her feel like an out-of-control child--whose destiny is being dictated by others--she chose to communicate like an adult by changing where and when she released her frustration and anger.

To regain your composure when you're pushed to your limit, remove yourself from the situation to re-calibrate your response. 

Just like this woman instinctively knew, you can recenter yourself through engaging in two simple practices that shifts your reaction time and space: 

💓 Practice the Pause--When you practice the pause, you learn to close you mouth while you take a break from reacting to the situation--you put time between when you want to openly rage and when you calmly respond.

💙Retreat to a Safe Place to Vent--When you remove yourself from the situation pushing you out of control, you make it easier to voice your concerns in a safe manner. 

Calm Adults Speak with Grace and Strength 

When you're caught off-guard by being treated unfairly in the workplace, give yourself a moment to deal with the anger and frustration. Pause to find someone safe to talk with privately about how you're feeling and how you want to deal with the situation before you speak up. 

When we're calm in our responses we show ourselves to be adults with grace and strength who act thoughtfully instead of reacting impulsively.  And more importantly than showing others we act with grace, we show ourselves we can regain our composure quickly and create better outcomes.   

'By letting it go it all gets done. The world is won by those who let it go. But when you try and try the world is beyond the winning.' Lao Tzu

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Kahlil Gibran~Forget not the Earth Delights

Breathe and Be Free

“Forget not that the earth delights 

to feel your bare feet

and the winds long to play with your hair.”

Kahlil Gibran

Look for the Magic and Beauty

“The appearance of things changes 

according to the emotions; 

and thus we see magic and beauty in them, 

while the magic and beauty are really in ourselves.”

Kahlil Gibran

Turn Thought into Action

“Thought is a bird of space,

that in a cage of words may indeed

unfold its wings but cannot fly.”

Kahlil Gibran

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For more than 35 years, Susan Meyerott has been helping people lighten up and step over invisible barriers to change one step at a time. She speaks to your heart, puts you at ease, and makes letting go and moving forward with life easier than ever before.

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Lightarted Living: Rid Your Life of Drama and Emotional Clutter

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Rid Your Life of Drama and Emotional Clutter

Let Go

Being a person who values freedom, I’ve been working on letting go of things that clutter my mind and attention.

When I first considered what I held on to that created chaos and distress in my life, a clear pattern started emerging: 

If I want to lead my life through my naturally calm and joyous spirit I'd gain the most benefit by focusing my attention on letting go of other people’s drama.

So I started the practice of letting other's drama slip past me without allowing it to get a toe-hold from the get-go.  This is a very freeing experience. 

Below are 3 simple things I've done to minimize the effect other's drama has on my joyful spirit. 

By keeping it simple and staying conscious of what I allow in, I'm finding it easier to move past drama each time it erupts. 

Walk Away from Drama and its Creators ~

Surround Yourself with People who make you Laugh

By Marie Forleo

“There comes a time in your life, when you walk away

From all the drama and people who create it.

You surround yourself with people who make you laugh.

Forget the bad and focus on the good.

Love the people who treat you well, pray for the ones who don't.

Life is too short to be anything but happy.

Falling down is a part of life, getting back up is living.” 

1. Consciously Acknowledge What You Want and What You Don't Want

Sit, Rest, Work--Alone with Yourself--Joyfully

It's not always easy to ‘sit, rest, and work--alone with yourself’ without letting the producers of drama splatter you with their over the top display of ill will and chaos. 

By consciously choosing to let the drama slide off you, you can better direct negativity away from you. 

Choose to stay focused on what you want--to live joyfully without drama. When drama appears--consciously acknowledge its presence and actively choose to walk away from it and its creators. 

2. Look through the Wrong End of a Telescope 

When in the middle of someone else's drama, view the situation as if you were looking at it through the wrong end of a telescope to minimize the view. In your mind, put the drama into a balloon and watch it disappear into the horizon.

Thanks to Grant Soosalu for the breathing technique

3. Choose Calm and Uplift

You are the master of your mind and spirit.  When you're surrounded by other people's drama, choose to breathe uplift into your heart and breathe out calmness into your gut. 

If you discover other's drama has crept into your mind long after the event, gently repeat this breathing technique to uplift and calm you to regain your center.

My Heart is at Rest

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Lightarted Living: The Three Day Rule: How to Calm the Worry-Wart in ...

Lightarted Living: The Three Day Rule: How to Calm the Worry-Wart in ...: LET IT GO Want a way to calm the worry-wart in you and ease your way through life?    Learn how to apply the Three Day Rule to ch...

The Three Day Rule: How to Calm the Worry-Wart in You

LET IT GO

Want a way to calm the worry-wart in you and ease your way through life?  

Learn how to apply the Three Day Rule to change how you deal with transitions-big or small.

We all need a strategy to ease our way through the constant change called life. 

While some people worry and fret more than others, we're all susceptible to reacting through life when we fail to give ourselves time to acknowledge the transition--no matter how small--and allow ourselves to just be in 'the moment after' without judging or interpreting it. 

This is what the Three Day Rule is about:

💓 Giving yourself time to just be in the moment after without judging or interpreting.

The Three Day Rule

I stumbled on the Three Day Rule in my 20's when I came home anticipating going back to work after a vacation.  The wall of dread hit as I stepped into the house.

You know that moment just before you step into the house after being gone when the irrational fear sets in--'OMG I forgot to pay my bills before I left on vacation'; 'OMG I left the stove or iron on--or water running'; 'OMG I wonder if anything bad happened I don't know about while I was gone'.

Instead of arriving home relaxed from a truly pleasurable vacation, I soon found myself fixated and anticipating all the problems that might have happened while I was gone and it began gnawing away at me. 

I didn't like that gnawing feeling one little bit.  It was in that moment I realized this was a pattern I could change.

 

Give Yourself Time 

To get back into the Swing of Things

As I thought about it, I realized I always came home from a vacation to secretly anticipating the problems that piled up while I was gone. Yet, I realized after I got back into the swing of things--after about three days--I had a handle on things and my angst lessened.

'What if I applied a three day rule?' I thought. 'What if I approached coming back home or going back to work after being gone as if there were no problems for three days?'

So I gave it a try--and it worked like a charm. No matter what issues arose in the 1st three days after returning home or to work, I calmly took the information in as just that--'information' and approached my first three days 'as if there were no problems'. 

I soon realized that I had stumbled across the best stress management technique ever--the three day rule--as it was effective when it was applied to big or small transitions alike.

THE THREE DAY RULE

There are no problems for three days when returning home or returning to work 

after your absence, or after being hit with a major crisis or life change.

There Are No Problems

The key to applying The Three Day Rule is how you approach the information that comes at you during those three days. When you choose to act as if there are no problems, you are choosing to act rather than react to your current life.

Don't let change and uncertainty overwhelm you. Choose to tweak your approach to the ever-changing landscape of life by applying the three day rule in all aspects of your life.

Ease Your Way through Life Transitions

Every moment in every day we transition from one moment to the next. And in the space between we face uncertainty about what's coming next. 

When the transitions we face are bigger and more difficult such as moving from being married to divorced or widowed; going from being a renter to becoming a home owner; changing employment status from employed to laid off; changing health status from well to sick--the stress and worry about the future can be overwhelming.

Even simple or 'good' transitions such as transitioning from home to work; returning to work after a vacation or weekend off; moving from being single to becoming a couple; moving from being unemployed to getting a job; or becoming new parents--can be stressful and give us cause to worry and fret. 

To ease your way through life transitions practice applying the Three Day Rule. Give your worry-wart mind a chance to catch up as you learn to be comfortable with the uncertainty of what comes next. 

Practice Being Comfortable with Uncertainty

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