Life is Good and All is Well: Why It's Important to Stop and Start Over Daily

 Life is Good! All is Well!

Stop and Start Over

Still feeling unsettled by recent events and uncertainty over what the future holds? Me too. But that's why at least once each day I like to stop to touch bases with my gratitude for the life we do live. 

When we give thanks for all the good things and good people we have in our lives it renews our inner strength and allows us to move forward with greater resiliency. 

We do better when we face what we fear through action and approach each day knowing 'life is good' and 'all is well'. 

Each moment of my life is new, fresh and vital!

Refresh Your Spirit and Demonstrate Your Strength Daily

When you stop and start over you give yourself a moment to start fresh each day. The purpose of re-centering is to call on your strong self to take charge of your day, and then to purposefully set yourself up to take action on the one thing you think that if you were to act on it, it wouldn't make a difference. 

The biggest barrier to our making a difference is our own invisible belief that if we take action it won't matter so we fail to act. 

Choose to suspend judgment, cut off thinking, and simply take one positive action a day about something you care deeply about.

Love One Another

Plant Kindness; Harvest Love

Find a Way to Begin Building Bridges

This has been a contentious year with anger, hurt feelings and fear permeating the social environment.  We need to begin the healing.

When you're ready, consider reaching out to others with kindness. Find a way to build bridges with people who sit on the opposite side. Practice listening with compassion. 

No this is not easy--and none of us should expect to achieve healing immediately. But until we begin building bridges and reestablishing relationships with people we love and care about we will continue to be stressed and feel uneasy. 

You do not need to give up your beliefs or stop fighting for what is right when you choose to begin the healing of key relationships. By focusing on where you can come together with friends and family while putting the contentious issues aside you can begin the process of reopening communication. 

It isn't always easy to 'love one another'--especially when emotions run high. When you are ready to move forward, make the first move, and stay steady even if your initial efforts are rejected.

Life IS Good~and All IS Well~but only if each of us does our part to make it so. Find a way to access your strength, courage, and compassion daily. Stop and reset.

Follow the voice in your HEART

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In the Sweetest Abyss of Solitude: A Poem by Tracy A Gibbons

A Poem by Tracy A Gibbons 

The cool water whirls between my toes

Jeans rolled up above my knees

Dirt from the pathway above trickles down the hill

Trees spinning in every direction

Protecting me in my spot

My territory

A bird in the distance echoes a sweet lullaby

I could almost dream to the sound

But I would rather stay here

Indian paintbrush spreads like wildfire among these ditches

It's as if you could pick it and eat it for dinner

Connecting with the universe

Through soil

My spot swallowing me whole

And I would not have it any other way

In the sweetest abyss of solitude

Alone at last

White noise of nature

A streak of sky through the tree tops

The waterfall only big enough for a fairy

I can see the remains of the dust from a previous visitor

Footsteps getting closer

Closer

I duck into my cavern among the sweetest lullaby and edible flowers

Only I know the password

Away from the outside strangers with nothing but bland points of view 

For the fairy in us all 

seeking solitude 

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Heal Your Soul: Listening to Whisper's of the Heart

Whisper

Lee Bryant, Artist

Quiet Your Soul

When the ranting noise of fear, anxiety, and uncertainty escalate in your head--let that be your signal to stop and dig deep within yourself to listen to the whisper's of your heart instead.

You are a force of nature--filled with strength, gentleness, wisdom, and purpose. You are here to fully participate in life and make a difference. You need to nurture your 'force of nature' self by retreating from the noise of the world so you can return with strength, compassion, and confidence.

Arlo, the dog-cat contemplating 

the path of tranquility

Lee Bryant, artist

Slow Down to Calm the Noise

Seek a path of tranquility to quell your nerves. Shut the world's noise out until you find balance within yourself. Consciously choose the messages and images that find their way into your psyche. 

Let go of images that clutter your brain and that weaken your heart and resolve to do good. Consciously seek calming and uplifting messages. When something touches your heart, send it back out to the world to encourage and uplift others.

Choose to be a force of good in the world based in a strong, yet gentle nature driven by a calm passion from within.

Tranquility

Within your HEART keep one still 

secret spot where dreams may go....

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My Friends, Do Not Lose Heart~We were made for these Times: Clarissa Pinkola Estes

We Were Made for these Times

This lovely piece was sent to me by my sister-in-law Lee and written by Clarissa Pinkola Estes, American poet, post-trauma specialist and Jungian psychoanalyst, and author of Women Who Run With the Wolves. It deserves a slow, thoughtful read.

As always with the perfect pieces of wisdom passed on to me I am compelled to send this one back out to you--especially as it speaks to our strength to endure through difficulties. We all need to continue to support each other with love and compassion while encouraging strength in one another.

My Friends, Do Not Lose Heart

By Clarissa Pinkola Estes--American poet, 

post-trauma specialist and Jungian psychoanalyst, 

and author of Women Who Run With the Wolves

My friends, do not lose heart. We were made for these times. I have heard from so many recently who are deeply and properly bewildered. They are concerned about the state of affairs in our world now. Ours is a time of almost daily astonishment and often righteous rage over the latest degradations of what matters most to civilized, visionary people.

You are right in your assessments. The lustre and hubris some have aspired to while endorsing acts so heinous against children, elders, everyday people, the poor, the unguarded, the helpless, is breathtaking.

Yet, I urge you, ask you, gentle you, to please not spend your spirit dry by bewailing these difficult times. Especially do not lose hope. Most particularly because, the fact is that we were made for these times.

Millions of Boats of Righteous Souls on the Waters with You

Yes. For years, we have been learning, practicing, been in training for and just waiting to meet on this exact plain of engagement.

I grew up on the Great Lakes and recognize a seaworthy vessel when I see one. Regarding awakened souls, there have never been more able vessels in the waters than there are right now across the world. And they are fully provisioned and able to signal one another as never before in the history of humankind.

Look out over the prow; there are millions of boats of righteous souls on the waters with you. Even though your veneers may shiver from every wave in this stormy roil, I assure you that the long timbers composing your prow and rudder come from a greater forest. That long-grained lumber is known to withstand storms, to hold together, to hold its own, and to advance, regardless.

We Are Needed~That is All We Can Know 

In any dark time, there is a tendency to veer toward fainting over how much is wrong or unmended in the world. Do not focus on that. There is a tendency, too, to fall into being weakened by dwelling on what is outside your reach, by what cannot yet be. Do not focus there. That is spending the wind without raising the sails.

We are needed, that is all we can know. And though we meet resistance, we more so will meet great souls who will hail us, love us and guide us, and we will know them when they appear. Didn't you say you were a believer? Didn't you say you pledged to listen to a voice greater? Didn't you ask for grace? Don't you remember that to be in grace means to submit to the voice greater?

What is Needed for Dramatic Change is an Accumulation of Acts

Ours is not the task of fixing the entire world all at once, but of stretching out to mend the part of the world that is within our reach. Any small, calm thing that one soul can do to help another soul, to assist some portion of this poor suffering world, will help immensely. It is not given to us to know which acts or by whom, will cause the critical mass to tip toward an enduring good.

What is needed for dramatic change is an accumulation of acts, adding, adding to, adding more, continuing. We know that it does not take everyone on Earth to bring justice and peace, but only a small, determined group who will not give up during the first, second, or hundredth gale.

Stand up and Show your Soul

One of the most calming and powerful actions you can do to intervene in a stormy world is to stand up and show your soul. Soul on deck shines like gold in dark times. The light of the soul throws sparks, can send up flares, builds signal fires, causes proper matters to catch fire. To display the lantern of soul in shadowy times like these - to be fierce and to show mercy toward others; both are acts of immense bravery and greatest necessity.

Struggling souls catch light from other souls who are fully lit and willing to show it. If you would help to calm the tumult, this is one of the strongest things you can do. 

When a Great Ship is in Harbor and Moored, it is Safe~But that is not what Great Ships are Built For

There will always be times when you feel discouraged. I too have felt despair many times in my life, but I do not keep a chair for it. I will not entertain it. It is not allowed to eat from my plate.

The reason is this: In my uttermost bones I know something, as do you. It is that there can be no despair when you remember why you came to Earth, who you serve, and who sent you here. The good words we say and the good deeds we do are not ours. They are the words and deeds of the One who brought us here. In that spirit, I hope you will write this on your wall: When a great ship is in harbor and moored, it is safe, there can be no doubt. But that is not what great ships are built for.

I know you're tired, but come this is the way. Rumi

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The Only Way Out of Our Darkest Moments

'Finish each day and be done with it. You have done what you could. Some blunders and absurdities no doubt crept in; forget them as soon as you can. Tomorrow is a new day. You shall begin it serenely and with too high a spirit to be encumbered with your old nonsense.'      

Ralph Waldo Emerson

Finding Our Way in Difficult Times

We all face difficult times throughout life. Who among us wants to stay stuck in the dark days any longer than we have to when we have work to do to make the world a better place? 

We all long to discover that deep inner strength and indomitable spirit we possess to help us find our way out of the darkness and back into fighting for our dreams.

How do we get back to living from a place of strength, courage and trust--and get out of the depths of despair sooner? Emerson said no matter what the problem you're dealing with, keep your focus on your dreams, not your problems.

The Only Way Out of Our Darkest Moments

Sometimes in the overwhelming challenge of trying to recover from a devastating loss we're left feeling discouraged, hopeless and isolated. Looking through the lens of defeat and loss, life can begin to feel flat and meaningless.

The key to pulling out of the darkness is to change the filter you look through to gain a fresh perspective. Or as Ralph Waldo Emerson said, 'Don't be pushed by your problems. Be led by your dreams.'

When you're dispirited it may feel like an impossible task to change your perspective. You don't exactly feel perky. Yet, changing your focus from the problem at hand and the seemingly insurmountable obstacles you face to putting the focus back on creating a life based on your dreams and aspirations IS the only way out.

Within your HEART 

keep one still, secret spot where dreams may go

What Are Your Dreams and Aspirations?

What are your dreams and hopes for you and the world around you?

What is one thing you would be willing to get involved with for the greater good of all?

If you had the time, energy and courage to pursue your dreams of making the world a better place--what would you get busy doing? 

Stay Strong. Be Courageous.

There is no way to avoid or go around the painful part of life on our way to achieving our dreams. No one 'has it easy'. But if each day we keep our eyes on the goal, instead of the obstacles, we allow ourselves to be led by our dreams instead of pushed by our problems, making it easier to endure the difficulties along the way. 

Sending you HUGS and Courage

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Mind-Blowing Burnout: Recovering The Day After and Beyond

The Day After

It's done. The divorce papers are signed. The memorial service for your loved one is over. Your beloved furry companion has passed. You cashed your severance check. The election is over.

How do you recover from a highly stressful event leaving you depressed, discouraged and shell-shocked?

The Day Before Leading Up to The Day After 

As this IS life, no one is immune to dealing with the ever-evolving landscape of life. 

No matter who we are, or what changes we're anticipating--whether 'good' or 'bad'--the day before the 'big moment' is unsettling and disruptive. Our fears and concerns leading up to a significant event temporarily suspends us in a state of fear as we try to bargain our way through to a better outcome in our heads. Yet deep down we know no amount of bargaining or magical thinking can assure the outcome we desire.

In the days leading up to a life-changing event we try to push the fear and worry out of our heads, but we can still feel the dread deep in our guts making us even more anxious about the now unnamed, free floating fear.

In the midst of it we want answers NOW as we contemplate the future uncertainty and what it all means. We want the pain and uncertainty to go away. We want a moment of peace and tranquility. We want things to resolve so we can get on with living.

But in the end we don't always get what we want when we want it. More often we're left to figure out how we can persevere and endure the uncertain times and changes as we go forward. And through these difficult times we find our strength and resiliency and learn what strong stuff we're really made of.

Recovering the Day After and Beyond

When you're left with an outcome you view as disastrous you need to find a way to heal your head, heart and soul. But how do you do that? It starts with taking a break from thinking, worrying, and anticipating the future.

But listen to me...for one moment quit being sad;

Hear the blessings dropping their blossoms all around you. Rumi

Just for Today:

Stop, take a breath--and focus on the present. Take the day off from fixating on your fears for the future, and engage in activities that let you know you are glad to be alive.

Let it be. Let today unfold without thinking about 'what just happened' and how you think it will affect your future. 

'Put up the Beans'. When my mother had a stroke and was in the hospital, my father wanted one of us 'girls' to go home with him to 'put up the beans'. He needed to engage in an ordinary every day activity to ground him and put him in the present. 

Bring your focus back to the present and put one foot in front of the other by choosing to do something completely ordinary--pull some weeds; clean out the junk drawer; clean out the gutters; go for a walk; clean out your closet and donate unneeded clothes; rake some leaves.

Tears are words that can't be spoken. unknown

Sit in Silence.  Give your heart a moment to just be. Listen to the birds. Sit with the dog. Pet the cat. 

Plan a fun event. Give yourself something to look forward to. Arrange a fun get away for the near future. 

Do something else. Gather friends to engage in mindless, fun activities to celebrate the life you share. Spend time with people you are happy to have in your life NOW to laugh and celebrate your friendship. Find a way to make a difference in one person's life.

Now is the time to remember life is to be enjoyed. Stop letting your life be determined by fear and worry.

Be Gentle, Kind and Compassionate with Yourself. Allow yourself to be still. Honor all the good things that have been in your life. Extend your kindness and compassion to others--even those who may sit on the opposite side of the isle from you. Strive to move yourself into a place of gentle healing. 

Find ways to lift one another up so you can all come from a place of strength, not hardness as you move forward.

Let your tears come; let them water your soul. Unknown

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3 Secrets to a Satisfying and Happy Long-Lasting Relationship

'A loving heart is the truest wisdom' Charles Dickens

What is the Secret to Enjoying a Long-lasting Relationship?

Are you in a relationship with its ups and downs? Do you wonder if you have what it takes to make your relationship last?

How do you know if it's worth investing time in a new relationship or mending a long-standing one?

After facing difficult times in the relationship, how do you even know if you want to continue in the relationship?

What a Happy Relationship Isn't....Conflict-free

If you think a conflict-free relationship is the key to a long-lasting happy partnership you're barking up the wrong tree.

All happily married couples have a good amount of 'bark' in their relationship. It's what puts the heat, or bite, into the relationship.  Look at classic comedy couples--Lucy and Ricardo (I Love Lucy); Alice and Ralph Kramden (Honeymooners). We love watching comedic couples interact because we relate to their conflicts and differences.

Truth is, we all have negative thoughts and feelings about our partners. It's natural. Over time our differences arise and the rose-colored glasses come off letting those petty annoyances surface. But there's something about happy, long-lasting relationships that makes them withstand the test of time and trouble.

Secret #1: Happily Married Couples Keep the Negative from Overwhelming the Positive

According to Dr. John M Gottman, author of 'The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work' and professor of psychology at the University of Washington and co-founder and director of the Gottman Institute, what can make a marriage or partnership work is surprisingly simple.

"In their day-to-day lives, happily married couples have hit upon a dynamic that keeps their negative thoughts and feelings about each other (which all couples have) from overwhelming their positive ones."

People in healthy, long-lasting relationships deal with the same garden variety issues that people who break up do. The difference is those in healthy lasting relationships find a way to maintain an overall positive feeling to their relationships despite the negative thoughts and feelings that naturally arise over time.

This isn't to say you should always work through conflict and stay together at all costs. It provides a measuring stick for you to consider. How do you create a dynamic in your relationship to allow the positive to over-ride the negative?

Don't be afraid of conflict and run away at the first sign of it--look for ways to put conflict in perspective. Instead of viewing a 'fight' as an ending, use it to create a new beginning to better communication.

Secret #2: Turn Passion into Compassion

In a happy union, love does make the world go round, but what love looks like over time changes. Family counselor, Gary Strait, noted that while relationships may initially be based on passion, if we are to continue to live with the differences and annoyances found in each other we must expand passion to have compassion for one another.

The longer we're in relationship together, the more acceptance, forgiveness, understanding--and perhaps a sense of humor about each others foibles--needs to play a central role in how we interact with ourselves as well as each other.

Secret #3: Ask Yourself--Do You Want it to Work?

Before you tie the knot, and whenever you deal with upsets in the relationship along the way there is one question you can pose to yourself that cuts through all the layers between you and knowing what to do--'Do you want it to work out?'

You'll know the answer immediately. If you want the relationship to work out you must do whatever is needed to make it work. Your pride, anxiety, anger, or hurt feelings getting in the way will fall by the wayside once you know you want the relationship to work. It will bring you to the negotiation table faster.

When you are in the throes of a new relationship--accept your immediate gut response to the question 'do I want it to work'. Stop overwhelming yourself with added expectations and responsibilities for the relationship ('I think she's more into the relationship long term than I am'). You are simply trying to get clear about your desires and feelings today.

Are you in or getting into a relationship now? What's your answer for today? Do you want it to work?

If YES, get out there and create more fun and meaningful times with one another. Find a way to enjoy and make a constructive use of your differences. Move into that place of allowing the good times to roll....

'To get the full value of joy you must have somebody to divide it with.' Mark Twain

A Tribute to 33 Years of Making it Work 

Today's post is in honor of the love of my life, Mark Gibbons, who 33 years ago was brave enough to ask the question, 'Do I want it to work?' I made an excellent choice for a life partner. He is the right one for me to work through difficulties. We're still working it!

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