LET IT GO
Want a way to calm the worry-wart in you and ease your way through life?
Learn how to apply the Three Day Rule to change how you deal with transitions-big or
small.
We all need a strategy to ease our way through the constant change called
life.
While some people worry and
fret more than others, we're all susceptible to reacting through life when
we fail to give ourselves time to acknowledge the transition--no matter how
small--and allow ourselves to just be in 'the moment after' without judging or
interpreting it.
This is what the Three Day Rule is about:
💓 Giving yourself time to just be in the
moment after without judging or interpreting.
The Three Day Rule
I stumbled on the Three Day Rule in my 20's when I came home anticipating
going back to work after a vacation. The wall of dread hit
as I stepped into the house.
You know that moment just before you step into the house
after being gone when the irrational fear sets in--'OMG I forgot
to pay my bills before I left on vacation'; 'OMG I left the stove or iron
on--or water running'; 'OMG I wonder if anything bad happened I don't know about
while I was gone'.
Instead of arriving home relaxed from a truly pleasurable vacation, I soon found myself fixated and anticipating all the problems that might have happened while I was
gone and it began gnawing away at me.
I didn't like that
gnawing feeling one little bit. It was in that moment I realized this was
a pattern I could change.
Give Yourself Time
To get back into the Swing of Things
As I thought about it, I realized I always came home from a
vacation to secretly anticipating the problems that piled up while I was gone. Yet, I realized after
I got back into the swing of things--after about three days--I had a handle on
things and my angst lessened.
'What if I applied a
three day rule?' I thought. 'What if I approached coming back home or going
back to work after being gone as if there were no problems for three days?'
So I gave it a try--and it worked like a charm. No matter what issues arose in
the 1st three days after returning home or to work, I calmly took the
information in as just that--'information' and approached my first three days
'as if there were no problems'.
I soon realized that I had stumbled across the best stress management technique
ever--the three day rule--as it was effective when it was applied to big or
small transitions alike.
THE THREE DAY RULE
There are no problems for three days when returning home or
returning to work
after your absence, or after being hit with a major crisis or
life change.
There Are No Problems
The key to applying
The Three Day Rule is how you approach the information that comes at you during
those three days. When you choose to act as if there are no problems, you are
choosing to act rather than react to your current life.
Don't let change and
uncertainty overwhelm you. Choose to tweak your approach to the ever-changing
landscape of life by applying the three day rule in all aspects of your life.
Ease Your Way through Life Transitions
Every moment in every day we transition from one moment to the next. And in the space between we face uncertainty about what's coming next.
When the transitions we face are bigger and more difficult such as moving from being married to divorced or widowed; going from being a renter to becoming a home owner; changing employment status from employed to laid off; changing health status from well to sick--the stress and worry about the future can be overwhelming.
Even simple or 'good' transitions such as transitioning from home to work; returning to work after a vacation or weekend off; moving from being single to becoming a couple; moving from being unemployed to getting a job; or becoming new parents--can be stressful and give us cause to worry and fret.
To ease your way through life transitions practice applying the Three Day Rule. Give your worry-wart mind a chance to catch up as you learn to be comfortable with the uncertainty of what comes next.
Practice Being Comfortable with Uncertainty
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For more than 35 years, Susan Meyerott has been helping people lighten up and
step over invisible barriers to change one step at a time. She speaks to your
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