Thursday, June 6, 2019

How to Create a More Satisfying Work Life


Row, row, row your boat,
gently down the stream,
merrily, merrily, merrily, merrily,
life is but a dream.


Living in Chronos Time Can be Stressful

The Greeks gave us two words for time: Chronos, or a quantitative concept of time, and Kairos, or a qualitative experience of time. 


When you're living in Chronos time, you might say 'time marches on' as you create your schedules laid out in sequential chronological order and you carefully develop plans and strive to meet looming deadlines on time and under budget. 


Our Western culture--especially our work culture--is built on Chronos time. We're always a step behind and hurrying to catch up to be more productive and stay on schedule. It is the world of headaches and stress as we try to conform to the strict task master--the time clock--and other's expectations. 




Living in Kairos Time is where You'll Find Satisfaction

Alternatively, when your life plays out in Kairos time, you choose to make the most of your time. Life flows, unfolds, and blossoms like a spring garden, with many things happening at once--and all in the right time. What is essential is at the heart of your day. This is the world of balance, contentment, and allowing. This is where you find your Zen moments and discover what sparks joy and satisfaction.


Bringing the Simple Flow of Life in the Right Time to Work

Kairos time is 'that which sparks joy' or 'that which takes you down the path of flow'. It is an experience of time in which you're totally absorbed in the moment. Immersed in Kairos time you're unhurried by deadlines, plans, or schedules. It is a life rich with meaning and full of relationships.

But if you live and work in a Western Culture that favors Chronos time, how do you ever find your way to living in Kairos time? Here's the secret: You make a conscious decision to throw an internal switch to bring the Kairos experience into the middle of Chronos living. 



The Internal Switch 

No one else needs to know you made the switch, however people will notice there is something different about you. You'll be calmer, more accessible, creative, and productive as you live as you are meant to be with that spark that comes from living with flow.

What is this internal switch to throw? It's deciding to live as a 'Peak Performer'--defined as someone who is internally driven and chooses to spend 2/3 of the day doing things they enjoy.


Find Ways to Enjoy What You Must Do

I know, easier said than done--especially if you're in an uninspiring job.  Surprisingly, not all Peak Performers are in jobs they love. What makes the difference in Peak Performers is they find ways to enjoy what they must do--or move on. 

There's the switch. For a Peak Performer, a satisfying life is too precious to waste on uninspiring work. So they find a way to enjoy what they must do or move on.

To spend 2/3 of your day engaged in activities you enjoy means you need to really consider what sparks joy in you, and to lead your life based on it--even at work.



Seek Work That Sparks Joy

When on the hunt for a new position, if you seek work that contains elements that spark joy in you, you'll more easily convey excitement for the work in a resume or interview instead of stumbling over yourself in self-consciousness. 

This is the key~When you're in a state of flow, self-consciousness is nonexistent. 

 To reframe Henry Ford's quote, 'obstacles and self-consciousness are what you see when you take your eyes off that which sparks joy and you move out of flow.'

If you see a project at work that titillates your senses, step forward to talk about your excitement for that project. When your attention is consumed by following a path of interest you aren't obsessing over yourself, or questioning if you have the skills or experience. You are clearly focused on a desire to take on that challenge.

Self-consciousness, fear of failure, and fear of falling behind have no place in Kairos time. Your focus is on this moment in flow that has captured your attention and sparks joy.
 


Everything is playing out in the most wondrous way!
Be Surprised!

Life is Good.
The fates are watching over you and
Life is paving the way for your success!


Kairos Opens Unlimited Energy and Enthusiam for the Right Challenge


Lao Tzu's description of nature's timing illustrates Kairos.

"Nature does not hurry, yet everything is accomplished' . Grass does not try to grow. Water does not try to flow. Flowers do not try to bloom. They just do. There is no hurry in plant time, just the simple flow of life in the right time."

Kairos time IS the simple flow of life in the right time. Stop judging quiet times of gestation as procrastination, and flailing yourself for failing to be 'on it' at all times. Sometimes you just have to let life flow around you. You'll take the next step in the right time. There is no hurry in human time either.


You know when you're engaged in an activity that captures your interest you don't worry about having the energy or enthusiasm for pursuing it. You gallop towards it unfettered and unselfconsciously, allowing yourself to totally immerse yourself in it. Use this knowledge to adjust your approach to work.


Discover ways to switch into Kairos time in your work life, and allow yourself to experience life in an unhurried, calm and focused manner--one that naturally sparks a deep peaceful joy and provides you unlimited energy and enthusiasm for pursuing the right challenge in the right time.

If you've been stuck in a hurried and joyless time at work, allow yourself to switch to work based on Kairos living. Give up racing time to allow yourself to contemplate what sparks joy in the moment, and then relax into it. Go on, throw that switch.


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Tuesday, June 4, 2019

Lightarted Living: Father Time asks Life's Ultimate Question~'Does it...

Lightarted Living: Father Time asks Life's Ultimate Question~'Does it...: What is Your Calculus of 'What Sparks Joy'?  “Mysteriously, as elusive as it is, this moment--where the eye is what it sees...

Father Time asks Life's Ultimate Question~'Does it Spark Joy?'


What is Your Calculus of 'What Sparks Joy'?

 “Mysteriously, as elusive as it is, this moment--where the eye is what it sees, 
where the heart is what it feels--this moment shows us that what is real is sacred.”

Mark Nepo

Does it Spark Joy?

Okay, okay. I know as Marie Kando says I should 'tidy up' and let things go. I'm working on it.  But this old piece of graph paper--fragile, fraying, and filled with numerical calculations done 40+ years ago by my physicist father--isn't one. It sparks joy.

When my father passed away five years ago I took this old decrepit paper imprinted with my father's energy. I didn't know what I'd do with it, but it spoke to me.

The 'scratch paper' with calculations in my father's scrawling handwriting was overlaid with the beautifully chaotic watercolor 'stain' as it sat beneath paper for doodling. If you look carefully beneath the chaos above you can still see the mathematical equations peeking through below. 

Studying this family treasure that 'sparks joy' got me thinking about our individual needs for chaos or order in our lives, and whether we're more apt to spend time counting our days in 'Chronos time' or making our days count in 'Kairos time'. 


"This Moment--where the eye is what it sees, 
where the heart is what it feels..."

Mark Nepo



Which is More Pleasing for You--Chaos or Order? 

What sparks joy in us is partly determined by our preference for living within the comfort of schedules and order, or living without boundaries and unencumbered by limits on time and space.  For my father and me it was always the latter that excited us.

My father and I shared the ability to live in chaos and uncertainty. We both in our own ways embraced a sense of an ever-expanding universe and an ever-expanding sense of time in our respective universal play yards. What sparked joy in us? Letting our minds wander with interest, and running life experiments to see what happens.

Our calculus of time 'well spent' was defined in this way: 
Maximum Meyerott Time = Maximum Entropy
In other words, life is meant to expand into an interesting stew of fascination and creative exploration that boils over into the next life. This is what 'sparks joy' for us.
'Entropy' is a term that refers to everything in the universe moving from order to disorder or chaos.  The origin of the word 'entropy' comes from the Greek word 'entropia', meaning 'a turning toward' or transformation (vocabulary.com). 

To me, maximum entropy, or chaos, is the path to opening up my ultimate playground for sparking joy--the universe of possibilities. It is all about allowing an unstructured flow to my day in which I ease into what captures my attention.





This Moment--where the eye is what it sees, 
where the heart is what it feels...

Mark Nepo














Chronos or Kairos Time? 

Each of us is left to determine what constitutes a good use of our time and what sparks joy--and this brings us to Kairos living in which we make our days count.

It was the Greeks who gave us the two words for time: Chronos, or a quantitative concept of time, and Kairos, or a qualitative experience of time. 

When you're led by Chronos time, you might say 'time marches on' as you create schedules laid out in sequential chronological order and you develop plans and deadlines to meet. 

Our Western culture--especially work--is built on Chronos time. We're always a step behind and hurrying to catch up to be more productive and stay on schedule. It is the world of headaches and stress as we try to conform to the strict task master--the time clock. 

When your life plays out in Kairos time, you choose to make the most of your time. Life flows, unfolds, and blossoms like a spring garden, with many things happening at once--and all in the right time. What is essential is at the heart of your day. This is the world of balance, contentment, and allowing. This is where you find your Zen moments and discover what sparks joy.

For me, when I'm living in 'Maximum Meyerott Time' it means I'm embracing a free-flowing use of time that allows a moment by moment transformation of my attention. It is the ultimate FLOW experience in which I'm steeped in an unencumbered exploration of whatever holds my fancy. It is the ultimate PLAY experience. 

This is the essence of FLOW and child's play. This is living by Kairos rather than Chronos time.


This Moment--where the eye is what it sees, 
where the heart is what it feels...

Mark Nepo




Kairos Time = The Essence of Time  

While my father's ever-expanding universe focused on the relationships in the physical world from galaxies to nano-particles, my focus was on the relationships between all creatures great and small. Despite his interests spiraling far out into space and mine diving deep into our inner world we shared many points of overlap.

My father understood me and my expansive ways. One of my fondest memories is of the time he described me to a fellow physicist as I walked into his home when I was a young mother. As I carried in a massive amount of stuff needed for the two toddlers I had in tow, I heard my father on the phone talking to his physicist friend. 

"Susan's like a gas," he said. "When she enters a room she fills every available space!"

I knew my father was smiling when he said it and I rather enjoyed that description of me. It still makes me chuckle! I AM a large space person and I'm expansive in every way. 

Perhaps I'm a bit like Pigpen as the cloud of gas that I am expands into the world around me.--and this is very much what it feels like to live in Kairos time--unhurried and unrestrained. 


This Moment--where the eye is what it sees, 
where the heart is what it feels...

Mark Nepo




Discovering the Simple Flow of Life in the Right Time--Even at Work

Kairos time is 'that which sparks joy' or 'that which takes you down the path of flow'. It is an experience of time in which you're totally absorbed in the moment. Immersed in Kairos time you're unhurried by deadlines, plans, or schedules. It is a life rich with meaning and full of relationships.

But if you live and work in a Western Culture that favors Chronos time, how do you ever find your way to living in Kairos time? Here's the secret: You make a conscious decision to throw an internal switch to bring the Kairos experience into the middle of Chronos living. 

No one else needs to know you made the switch, however people will notice there is something different about you. You'll be calmer, more accessible, creative, and productive as you live as you are with that spark that comes from living with flow.

What is this internal switch to throw? It's deciding to live as a 'Peak Performer'--defined as someone who is internally driven and chooses to spend 2/3 of the day doing things you enjoy.

I know, easier said than done--especially if you're in an uninspiring job.  Surprisingly, not all Peak Performers are in jobs they love. What makes the difference in Peak Performers is they find a way to enjoy what they must do--or move on. 

To spend 2/3 of your day engaged in activities you enjoy requires you to really consider what it is that sparks joy in you and to lead your life based on it--even at work.
When you're job hunting, if you seek work that contains elements that sparks joy in you, you'll more easily convey excitement for the work in a resume or interview instead of stumbling over yourself in self-consciousness. When you're in flow, self-consciousness is nonexistent.

Self-consciousness, fear of failure, and fear of falling behind have no place in Kairos time. Your focus is on this moment that has captured your attention and sparks joy.

Lao Tzu's description of nature's timing illustrates Kairos.
"Nature does not hurry, yet everything is accomplished' . Grass does not try to grow. Water does not try to flow. Flowers do not try to bloom. They just do. There is no hurry in plant time, just the simple flow of life in the right time."

Kairos time IS the simple flow of life in the right time.  Discover ways to switch into Kairos time, and allow yourself to experience life in an unhurried, calm and focused manner--one that naturally sparks a deep peaceful joy.

It is up to us to suck as much joy and satisfaction out of our life as we can during our short stay on earth. If you've been stuck in a hurried and joyless time, think about allowing yourself to move into moments of Kairos living. Give up racing time to allow yourself to contemplate what sparks joy in the moment, and then relax into it. 

“Mysteriously, as elusive as it is, this moment--where the eye is what it sees, 
where the heart is what it feels--this moment shows us that what is real is sacred.”

Mark Nepo





How would you describe 'time well spent'? 



What is your calculus of 'what sparks joy'?


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Sunday, June 2, 2019

Lightarted Living: Ralph W. Emerson on How to Succeed~Laugh Often and...

Lightarted Living: Ralph W. Emerson on How to Succeed~Laugh Often and...: "To have played and laughed with enthusiasm and sung with exultation; To give of one's self; To find the best in others~...

Ralph W. Emerson on How to Succeed~Laugh Often and Love Much


"To have played and laughed with enthusiasm
and sung with exultation;
To give of one's self;
To find the best in others~
This is to have succeeded."

Ralph Waldo Emerson


"To laugh often and love much;
To leave the world a better place;
To know even one life has breathed easier
because you have lived~
This is to have succeeded."

Ralph Waldo Emerson



To Leave the World a Better Place

These delicious Emerson quotes and accompanying images
were inspired by Delightful Repast's 
food photo for Ground Beef Chili with Beans. 

I've been following Jean on Delightful Repast for 8 years 
as she shares wholesome recipes to delight my palate and
heart-warming stories that add sweetness, 
spice and a bit of nostalgia to the recipes.

As I was on my way to saving her Ground Beef Chili with Beans 
recipe so I could give it a try, I was struck by what a simple--
yet beautiful--presentation Jean made of the Chili, 
and I quickly got sidetracked copying her photo and playing with it. 

Although I've never met Jean face to face, over the years we've  
struck up an on-line relationship and I know a few things about her-- 
especially her love of Ralph Waldo Emerson--so I knew the Emerson
quotes would provide just the right finishing touches to the
pictures I cooked up from Jean's Chili photo.


I choose the Emerson quotes I felt Jean embodied to adorn the art.
Sometimes you just know a person--even if you've never met them.

If you are interested in recipes that use organic, nonGMO, 
grass-fed and free-range cooking ingredients, check out 


 What is the origin of the name 'Delightful Repast'?

Says Jean, "My husband is very polite and humorous, often simultaneously, and has said to me after nearly every dinner I've ever made for him, "Thank you for the delightful repast." How could I name my food blog anything else!"



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Saturday, June 1, 2019

Lightarted Living: Decoding The Hieroglyphs of Life

Lightarted Living: Decoding The Hieroglyphs of Life: Love Showing Up Ever wonder the meaning of the momentary messages life sends you? Is that love showing up or love passing...

Decoding The Hieroglyphs of Life


Love Showing Up

Ever wonder the meaning of the
momentary messages life sends you?


Is that love showing up or love passing you by?

How do you know? 

How do you decode the hieroglyphs of life?



Imagining Your Dreams

I've found if I sit quietly and 
silently stare long enough into the moment,
images emerge that show me the desires of my heart
and the best way to move forward in life.



Hieroglyphs

That's what I did the other day~
sit quietly and stare into the moment~
when Lee, my artist and life co-conspirator
sent this image titled, 'hieroglyphs' 
and left me to figure out what it was 
and what it was to be.

By the time I finished playing with it, 
I had a smile on my face as 
I realized I had decoded the hieroglyphs of life~
and I had to share it with you 
(in case you hadn't figured it out yourself).



Listen Quietly

Life's truths are always
available to you~
waiting beneath your consciousness
to whisper into your soul
and set you down a positive path.



Listen for the Uplifting Messages

The not-so-hidden messages
lingering beneath your conscious awareness
are simple and uplifting~
Trust them. 


Take a chance on Life.
Enjoy Life.
Trust Yourself.
Trust Life.
Mix a bit of silliness with your seriousness.
Carpe Diem
Be ALIVE!



Love Birds

Take a chance on love.



The Hieroglyphs of Life Decoded
(Believe it!)



Life is Short....



And there will always be dirty dishes....



So Let's Dance!




"Life is Short and there will always be dirty dishes,
so let's dance!"

James Howe


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