Lightarted Living: Fate Leads the Willing and Drags the Reluctant

Lightarted Living: Fate Leads the Willing and Drags the Reluctant: FATE LEADS THE WILLING AND DRAGS THE RELUCTANT SENECA GIDDY-UP! Sign Up for Free E-mail updates              ...

Fate Leads the Willing and Drags the Reluctant

FATE LEADS THE WILLING

AND DRAGS THE RELUCTANT

SENECA

GIDDY-UP!

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For more than 35 years, Susan Meyerott has been helping people lighten up and step over invisible barriers to change one step at a time. She speaks to your heart, puts you at ease, and makes letting go and moving forward with life easier than ever before.

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Lightarted Living: The Secret to Stop Procrastination: Begin Simply, ...

Lightarted Living: The Secret to Stop Procrastination: Begin Simply, ...: "Eat a live frog first thing in the morning and nothing worse will happen to you the rest of the day." Mark Twain Okay, com...

Lightarted Living: What to do while Waiting for the Other Shoe to Dro...

Lightarted Living: What to do while Waiting for the Other Shoe to Dro...: 'Before you criticize someone ,  you should walk a mile in their shoes.  That way when you criticize them,  you are a mile a...

Lightarted Living: May today be all you need it to Be

Lightarted Living: May today be all you need it to Be: May today be the day you achieve your heart's desire. May today be the day a stranger points you in the right directio...

May today be all you need it to Be

May today be the day you achieve your heart's desire.

May today be the day a stranger points you in the right direction.

May today be the day you find what you're looking for.

May today be the day you pocket your dreams and carry them with you.

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For more than 35 years, Susan Meyerott has been helping people lighten up and step over invisible barriers to change one step at a time. She speaks to your heart, puts you at ease, and makes letting go and moving forward with life easier than ever before.

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Lightarted Living: How to be Calm and In-Control When You Feel Anythi...

Lightarted Living: How to be Calm and In-Control When You Feel Anythi...: " Anyhow, t he short answer is 'No'; the long answer is 'Hell No! '" Fit-to-be-Tied  The other day I had ...

How to be Calm and In-Control When You Feel Anything But

"Anyhow, the short answer is 'No'; the long answer is 'Hell No!'"

Fit-to-be-Tied 

The other day I had a call from a woman who was fit-to-be-tied. She took a break from work so she could cool down after being blindsided by a colleague who wanted to put her back on a dysfunctional team she just left. 

Surprised and hurt, she blurted out an emphatic 'NO!' before she called me to unleash her frustration and anger in a safe place.

We're programmed to experience the full gamut of emotions, including anger, rage, frustration and fear, and there's nothing wrong with us when we're moved to outrage and feeling out-of-control. Outrage is a normal, healthy response to our boundaries being breached--yet it feels so awful, we're driven to get back to a calmer state as soon as possible.

So the question is, what can you do to regain your calm and sense of control sooner? In other words, how do you regain your calm and sense of control when you feel anything but?

How to Communicate like an Adult when you feel like a Child

In a hot moment of feeling pushed out-of-control by the actions of others, this young woman responded in just the right way to put her back on the road to feeling calm and in-control.  

While it may not have felt like it in the moment, once she was hit with a situation that made her feel like an out-of-control child--whose destiny is being dictated by others--she chose to communicate like an adult by changing where and when she released her frustration and anger.

To regain your composure when you're pushed to your limit, remove yourself from the situation to re-calibrate your response. 

Just like this woman instinctively knew, you can recenter yourself through engaging in two simple practices that shifts your reaction time and space: 

💓 Practice the Pause--When you practice the pause, you learn to close you mouth while you take a break from reacting to the situation--you put time between when you want to openly rage and when you calmly respond.

💙Retreat to a Safe Place to Vent--When you remove yourself from the situation pushing you out of control, you make it easier to voice your concerns in a safe manner. 

Calm Adults Speak with Grace and Strength 

When you're caught off-guard by being treated unfairly in the workplace, give yourself a moment to deal with the anger and frustration. Pause to find someone safe to talk with privately about how you're feeling and how you want to deal with the situation before you speak up. 

When we're calm in our responses we show ourselves to be adults with grace and strength who act thoughtfully instead of reacting impulsively.  And more importantly than showing others we act with grace, we show ourselves we can regain our composure quickly and create better outcomes.   

'By letting it go it all gets done. The world is won by those who let it go. But when you try and try the world is beyond the winning.' Lao Tzu

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For more than 35 years, Susan Meyerott has been helping people lighten up and step over invisible barriers to change one step at a time. She speaks to your heart, puts you at ease, and makes letting go and moving forward with life easier than ever before.

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Lightarted Living: Kahlil Gibran~Forget not the Earth Delights

Lightarted Living: Kahlil Gibran~Forget not the Earth Delights: Breathe and Be Free “Forget not that the earth delights  to feel your bare feet and the winds long to play with your ha...

Kahlil Gibran~Forget not the Earth Delights

Breathe and Be Free

“Forget not that the earth delights 

to feel your bare feet

and the winds long to play with your hair.”

Kahlil Gibran

Look for the Magic and Beauty

“The appearance of things changes 

according to the emotions; 

and thus we see magic and beauty in them, 

while the magic and beauty are really in ourselves.”

Kahlil Gibran

Turn Thought into Action

“Thought is a bird of space,

that in a cage of words may indeed

unfold its wings but cannot fly.”

Kahlil Gibran

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For more than 35 years, Susan Meyerott has been helping people lighten up and step over invisible barriers to change one step at a time. She speaks to your heart, puts you at ease, and makes letting go and moving forward with life easier than ever before.

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Lightarted Living: Rid Your Life of Drama and Emotional Clutter

Lightarted Living: Rid Your Life of Drama and Emotional Clutter: Let Go Being a person who values freedom, I’ve been working on letting go of things that clutter my mind and attention. When I first ...

Rid Your Life of Drama and Emotional Clutter

Let Go

Being a person who values freedom, I’ve been working on letting go of things that clutter my mind and attention.

When I first considered what I held on to that created chaos and distress in my life, a clear pattern started emerging: 

If I want to lead my life through my naturally calm and joyous spirit I'd gain the most benefit by focusing my attention on letting go of other people’s drama.

So I started the practice of letting other's drama slip past me without allowing it to get a toe-hold from the get-go.  This is a very freeing experience. 

Below are 3 simple things I've done to minimize the effect other's drama has on my joyful spirit. 

By keeping it simple and staying conscious of what I allow in, I'm finding it easier to move past drama each time it erupts. 

Walk Away from Drama and its Creators ~

Surround Yourself with People who make you Laugh

By Marie Forleo

“There comes a time in your life, when you walk away

From all the drama and people who create it.

You surround yourself with people who make you laugh.

Forget the bad and focus on the good.

Love the people who treat you well, pray for the ones who don't.

Life is too short to be anything but happy.

Falling down is a part of life, getting back up is living.” 

1. Consciously Acknowledge What You Want and What You Don't Want

Sit, Rest, Work--Alone with Yourself--Joyfully

It's not always easy to ‘sit, rest, and work--alone with yourself’ without letting the producers of drama splatter you with their over the top display of ill will and chaos. 

By consciously choosing to let the drama slide off you, you can better direct negativity away from you. 

Choose to stay focused on what you want--to live joyfully without drama. When drama appears--consciously acknowledge its presence and actively choose to walk away from it and its creators. 

2. Look through the Wrong End of a Telescope 

When in the middle of someone else's drama, view the situation as if you were looking at it through the wrong end of a telescope to minimize the view. In your mind, put the drama into a balloon and watch it disappear into the horizon.

Thanks to Grant Soosalu for the breathing technique

3. Choose Calm and Uplift

You are the master of your mind and spirit.  When you're surrounded by other people's drama, choose to breathe uplift into your heart and breathe out calmness into your gut. 

If you discover other's drama has crept into your mind long after the event, gently repeat this breathing technique to uplift and calm you to regain your center.

My Heart is at Rest

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For more than 35 years, Susan Meyerott has been helping people lighten up and step over invisible barriers to change one step at a time. She speaks to your heart, puts you at ease, and makes letting go and moving forward with life easier than ever before.

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