'Revel in the tension between fear and optimism. If your goal seems impossible, it's probably worth going after.' Larry Romero
Whether introvert or extravert, we are all capable of being good at anything we choose to master. But we tend to favor some ways of dealing with life over others. We all have strengths and weaknesses. Depending on your preferences, some aspects of managing your life will excite you and others will stress you.
- You're sociable and fun once you know a person, but you feel awkward and anxious about starting a relationship.
- You're a great finisher whose excitement goes up the closer you get to the finish line but your stress goes up before you start a job.
- You prefer to lay a plan and stick to it and your stress rises when someone asks you to be more flexible about changing those carefully laid plans.
- You excel at working independently and you get stressed by working with others.
Like others, you may be interested in understanding whether you are an introvert or extravert--and what that means to you. But who you are and how you prefer to deal with life goes much further than whether you prefer introversion or extraversion.
The true beauty of understanding how you prefer to deal with life is it allows you the freedom to become the best you can be--first through accepting who you are and second through choosing to consciously and deliberately do things differently.
Fifteen years ago I chose to improve my time management skills to get more out of my life. Since I was a great starter of projects I decided to consciously refocus on the opposite of what I do best--finishing. I discovered by refocusing on the word 'finish' when I started a new endeavor I took things to completion sooner. Today it's almost second nature for me to finish what I start.
Refocus with a Single Word
You don't need to know the whole truth about who you are to become a better you. Whether you want to be more compassionate or less judgmental, loosen up, be timelier, or relate better with others--you can begin to master your less preferred ways to manage life by refocusing your attention with a single word. It's that simple.
If you want to become a better you, choose a starting place to redirect your focus so you attend to what you want to master. That's what choosing a single refocusing word is about.
Deep inside, you know what that one word is for you. You know if you were to consciously embrace one less preferred aspect of how you deal with life you would be more balanced and your life less stressful.
So what is it that would make your life more balanced, and what is the single word that could serve to easily refocus your attention on what you want to master?
Is Your Critical, Judgmental Nature Getting in the Way?
Perhaps you are too critical and judgmental towards yourself and others. You want to be in a loving relationship, but your critical and judgmental thinking is getting in the way.
A healthy relationship requires an equal amount of courage and compassion. If you are too critical and judgmental you may demonstrate lots of courage to speak your mind and not enough compassion towards others and yourself.
Refocus your attention with the word compassion to guide you to soften up and lead with more heart, than head. An added bonus to focusing on the word compassion is you will be kinder to yourself—and have more courage to let go of the fear and be yourself.
Struggling to Learn a New Skill or Job?
When you're struggling to learning a new skill or job you can feel overwhelmed by where to begin. If your reaction to being overwhelmed is to avoid stepping into the learning process, you may want to choose the word 'start' or 'small' to cue you to just jump in and take the first small step.
Become the Person You Already Are--Only Better!
Don't worry about picking the perfect word. Pick one word to guide you daily--and start using it. If you need to change your focus, do it. Just keep it simple.
I was always a person who was flexible and adaptable. By focusing on finishing, today I am a flexible and adaptable person who is easy to work with--and who finishes projects and meets deadlines.
Whether introvert or extravert, by choosing to focus on one word to help you manage your life better, you'll become the person you already are--only better!
Refocusing Words--Choose One
- Suspend (Judgment)
- Describe (don't judge)
'If you do not change direction, you may end up where you are heading.' Lao Tzu
Sign Up for Free E-mail updates
If you're interested in learning more about closing the gap between where you are now and where you want to be, join the Lightarted Living mailing list. Connect with Susan on Twitter or LinkedIn. Sign up for free e-mail updates from this blog in the top right-hand corner of the page.
Would you like to Host a Lightarted Event?
For more than 25 years, Susan Meyerott has been helping people lighten up and step over invisible barriers to change one step at a time. She speaks to your heart, puts you at ease, and makes changing easier than ever before. Contact Susan to schedule life change coaching, weekend retreats, or engaging Lightarted experiences to share with friends.