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Who's Your Critic?
Perfecting the Critic's Image
When I first started publishing over 40 years ago, I had quite a crowd of critics roaming around my head. I'd been told I couldn't write for many years.
From elementary through high school my teachers consistently red inked 'run on sentences' across my papers. No one ever told me what a 'run on sentence' was or how to fix it. I just knew it was wrong.
In college I was forced to take 'bonehead english' my first year, further confirming my perceived lack of writing skills. The very aged school marm who taught the class would soon form a perfect visual for all the other critics in my head.
It didn't help she had a hearing aid that constantly failed. Even though the student she asked to to spell a word like 'cat', spelled it correctly, she couldn't hear it and shouted out, 'NO!', while pointing to the next person to spell it. Hair pulled back in a bun, glasses hanging on the end of her nose, pursed lips and pinched brow, she easily moved to the head of the critic's class inside my head.
Paint a Caricature of Your Critic
I know, I know ~ that school marm image sounds too cliche to be true. But it's true!
See what you find when you take a look at the faces and posturing of the critics in your own head. Chances are they're cliche too ~ strict, heavy pinched brows, face pinched in scowl and disapproval ~the expert ready to shoot down your great ideas or show you exactly where you're wrong and misguided.
To kick the critics out of your head you need to show them for the ridiculous characters they are. Paint a picture of the full caricature with as much embellishment as you can muster, then have a good laugh. Make a list of comments you'd like to say to your critics face to face ~ comments you'll never say, but comments it sure feels good to think about saying. Now kick them out of your head.
Kick the Critic out of Your Head!
I learned a little secret from speaking before audiences and writing for readers. You can just as easily conjure up a clear picture of your friendly, interested audience to replace your off-putting critics. Imagine who would be interested in your idea, and create with them in mind.
Go one step further and zero in on the face of one person you know would give you a friendly reception, and replace your critic with your new confidant. Make the friendly, interested confidant's image as strong as your critic's was ~ only much nicer!
Ask yourself :
- What would I do if I knew I couldn't fail?
- What great ideas would MY dragon hear from me?
- Who is my mentor or friend?
- Who will just listen to me so I can sort my own stuff out?
Make a List
Who's
Your Critic?
Perfecting the Critic's Image
When I first started publishing over 40 years ago, I had quite a crowd of
critics roaming around my head. I'd been told I couldn't write for many years.
From elementary through high school my teachers consistently red inked 'run on
sentences' across my papers. No one ever told me what a 'run on sentence' was
or how to fix it. I just knew it was wrong.
In college I was forced to take 'bonehead english' my first year, further
confirming my perceived lack of writing skills. The very aged school marm who
taught the class would soon form a perfect visual for all the other critics in
my head.
It didn't help she had a hearing aid that constantly failed. Even though the
student she asked to to spell a word like 'cat', spelled it correctly, she
couldn't hear it and shouted out, 'NO!', while pointing to the next person to
spell it. Hair pulled back in a bun, glasses hanging on the end of her nose,
pursed lips and pinched brow, she easily moved to the head of the critic's
class inside my head.
Paint a Caricature of Your Critic
I know, I know ~ that school marm image sounds too cliche to be true. But it's
true!
See what you find when you take a look at the faces and posturing of
the critics in your own head. Chances are they're cliche too ~ strict,
heavy pinched brows, face pinched in scowl and disapproval ~the expert ready to
shoot down your great ideas or show you exactly where you're wrong and
misguided.
To kick the critics out of your head you need to show them for the ridiculous
characters they are. Paint a picture of the full caricature with as much
embellishment as you can muster, then have a good laugh. Make a list of
comments you'd like to say to your critics face to face ~ comments you'll
never say, but comments it sure feels good to think about saying. Now
kick them out of your head.
Kick the Critic out of Your Head!
I learned a little secret from speaking before audiences and writing for
readers. You can just as easily conjure up a clear picture of your friendly,
interested audience to replace your off-putting critics. Imagine
who would be interested in your idea, and create with them in mind.
Go one step further and zero in on the face of one person you know would give
you a friendly reception, and replace your critic with your new confidant. Make
the friendly, interested confidant's image as strong as your critic's was ~
only much nicer!
Ask yourself :
- What would I do if I knew I couldn't fail?
- What great ideas would MY dragon hear from me?
- Who is my mentor or friend?
- Who will just listen to me so I can sort my own stuff out?
Make a
List