Friday, July 12, 2019

Memories of Beloved Pets Linger Long after Gone


'One-Eyed Blackie' 
by Lee Bryant and Susan J Meyerott


Tenderly Loved


'It doesn't happen all at once,' said the Skin Horse. 

You become. It takes a long time. 

Generally, by the time you're Real, most of your hair has been loved off, 

and your eyes drop out and you get loose in the joints and very shabby. 


But these things don't matter at all, 

because once you are Real you can't be ugly, 

except to people who don't understand.” 

Margery Williams Bianco, 
The Velveteen Rabbit





Lee and Monsieur Le Noire

Monsieur Le Noire

Tar Fondu

Mr Black

Blackie

Mr Bee Lack

Mr Bee Lacky Lack

Mr Bee Lackey Boy

One-Eyed Blackie


One-Eyed Blackie wasn't always one-eyed. 

He began life as a magnificent creature~Monsieur Le Noire. 

But through the years, 

~just as the skin horse in the Velveteen Rabbit described~

his hair was loved off, and his eye dropped out,

and he got loose in the joints, thin and shabby.


But he was never ugly. 

No, he was tenderly loved 

and always seen as the magnificent creature that he was

who graced his human's life.





By Any other Name Otter Was a Prince of a Dog



Otter

Otter Boy

Otter B Hound Dog

Otter B Hounddoggie Boy 

Otter B Hounddoggie Boy oh Boy

Mr BobnBob

Maita Bob

Meeta

Maita

Mate




'Lovely Meeta, Meeta Dog'

Where do all of these nicknames come from for our long-time companions? 


Our furry friends are our intimate confidants and side-kicks

for our many life adventures. No matter how old we are

we whisper our stories and sing our songs to them.


Over time, our companions become the embodiment of

the songs in our heads and the tenderness in our hearts--

reminding us of our own silliness and vulnerabilities.

These ditties and nicknames become lodged in our heads to

linger long after our beloved pets are gone.

💓💓

"The nickname Maita/Meeta came from singing 

the Beatles tune Lovely Rita, meter (“meeta” w/accent) maid...

just a bizarre twist of that over time. 

The brain can be filled with silliness as u know..."

Lee Bryant





No No Bad Dog

Arrow

Sp-arrow

Wheel B-arrow

My Gringo Dingo

Dog

No No Bad Dog



Profiles of a Gringo-Dingo


Arrow was an interesting dog--a street dog from Guanajuato, Mexico.

When my 18 year old son brought Arrow home as a puppy

it was touch and go whether

I'd let him stay or send him to 'the pound'.


No No Bad Dog destroyed my son's foam mattress in a day;

ate my turquoise fimo necklace and pooped it out the next day;

and he took years to train the suspiciousness of

other dogs and humans out of him.


He was never an easy dog, but we came to love

our Gringo Dingo who believed it was

his dog-given right to bark at the FedEx man

when he heard his truck coming from a mile away.


No, not all of our beloved pets are well-behaved all of the time.

They can be ill-mannered and whiny; garbage-pickers and destroyer's of property.

But we love them all even if we do threaten to take them to the pound!






Bailey the Bunny

A Bundle of Love

Funny, Furry, Fluffy, Friendly

Loved

💓💓

"Until one has loved an animal
a part of one's soul remains unawakened."

Anatole France





Murphy the Coffee Table Dog

The Murf

The Good Boy

I always thought Murphy Greenstein was the perfect coffee table dog. 

His size and squared off shape, along with his mellow personality,

made me picture him with a glass tabletop on his back functioning

as a coffee table. Really, The Murf was the perfect height for petting,

and perfectly agreeable to stand perfectly still to get him some of that.

By all accounts, Murphy was simply a Good Boy.

💓💓

'I give thanks to all the furry ones 
that have made me so rich 
with a precious legacy of memories.'

Diane Hackney-Smith



Ginger and Velvet--The BFFs

Ginger the Talking Dog

Velveeta Cheese

Ging and Velvy


Ging and Velvy were two of the sweetest dogs ever

--even if Velvy was shy of short people.


Ginger and Velvet met later in life and became

fast friends the minute Ginger the Talking Dog 

let out a friendly greeting to Velvet who 

answered back in a similar agreeable voice.

It was clear these soon to be best friends 

spoke the same language, as did their human

'soon to be best friends'--Susan and Debi.


Velvet passed before Ginger and was buried

on the hillside in her backyard.


When it was Ginger's time to go at almost 18 years old,

Debi came to me and said, "It's time, Sue".

She made the call to Dr Miller for me to put Ginger to rest

while her family dug a grave for Ginger so she could be

laid next to her best friend, Velvet.


Years later when it was Arrow's time to go,

once again her family dug a grave for him so he could take

his place alongside all our other beloved pets.


I can think of nothing more tender and intimate 

between friends than to call the vet and to dig the grave

for a pet when you are too broken up to do it yourself.

Our beloved pets bind us to one another deeply 

as we share in their lives and their deaths.


💓💓

"There are doggies I'll remember all my life.

Some are dead, and some are living

In my life, I've loved them all."


With a nod to the Beatles Song 'In My Life"





Dancer Dances One Last Time

Dancer, the independent mini Aussie,

came to us one year to spend time with Arrow 

when her humans took trips. Arrow fell in love with 

Dancer immediately as Dancer didn't pay Arrow any mind.


I said Dancer was channeling my mother whose advice 

on men would always be, "Treat 'em mean, Susan; treat 'em mean."


Arrow the 'water-phobic' and sun-loving, Mexican street dog 

would follow Dancer into the creek and any other place she decided to go.

She had the cutest little wiggle, and she would dance and prance 

as she looked back over her shoulder when she was happy 

and when she would greet you. She was sassy and flirtatious

in a friendly, fun-loving way--just like my mother was--and Arrow adored her. 


💓💓

Dance, Dance, Dance Away

Soft moss a downy pillow makes,
And green grass makes a bed,
where Dancer lays her tired head.

Sweet dreams, dear Dancer~
Ado Adieu
Lay your head for the last good night,
Then dance, dance, dance away.


Credit: The 'Soft moss a downy pillow makes' line is from Elizabeth T Dillingham's 'A Faery Song'




💓💓💓💓

Tears are words 

The heart can't express


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Monday, July 8, 2019

Lightarted Living: Dogs Give Us a Sense of Belonging

Lightarted Living: Dogs Give Us a Sense of Belonging: BE-LONGING We all long to belong and to feel a part of something-- a tribe, a clan, a family, a dog  pack.  Our dogs make u...

Dogs Give Us a Sense of Belonging


BE-LONGING

We all long to belong and to feel a part of something--
a tribe, a clan, a family, a dog pack. 

Our dogs make us feel loved and wanted--
like we matter. We're integral parts of their dog pack--
as they are integral parts of ours. 
We belong to them as they belong to us.


Be-Longing 

A desire, or longing, to BE part of the group. 



Play with Enthusiasm and Howl with Exaltation

Dogs long to belong and be part of the pack.
They want to give of themselves
and to know your life is better 
because they're part of it.

Dogs are successful when they 
play with enthusiasm and howl with exaltation--
especially when they're able to show you how to do the same.

When you give in to being silly with your dog
that's when they jolly well know you belong to them!


Worthy of Belonging

"You're imperfect, and you're wired for struggle,
but you are worthy of love and belonging." 

Brene Brown


The Dog Pack

Companion dogs of homeless Travelers provide 
comfort, connection, and a feeling of safety.
No matter where they go, they belong.


In Dogs We Trust

Trust is letting go of the need to know 
all the details before we open our hearts. 
Dogs help us open our hearts sooner.



Belonging on the Open Road

To be bound by ties of affection, 
dependence, allegiance, or membership
to have a proper or usual place.




A Sense of Belonging is an Irreducible Need 

"A deep sense of love and belonging is an irreducible need of all people. 
We are biologically, cognitively, physically, and spiritually wired
to love, to be loved, and to belong. When those needs are not met, 
we don't function as we were meant to. We break. We fall apart. 
We numb. We ache. We hurt others. We get sick." 

Brene Brown


"Besides individual things like thunder and gunshots, 
what dogs fear most is not belonging, being alone."

Elizabeth Marshall Thomas



Thank You to the Jackson County Animal Shelter and FOTAS

All of the dogs shown are either Jackson County Animal Shelter dogs 
waiting to be adopted, or part of the Friends of the Jackson County Animal Shelter 
Street Dog Program--that provides free spay/neutering, 
 other essentials to improve the health of companion dogs for 
the homeless while decreasing the number of stray animals.

FOTAS is a non-profit volunteer organization filled with caring people who work 
to make the lives of dogs, cats and other animals more agreeable until they're adopted. 



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Saturday, July 6, 2019

Lightarted Living: Love, Love Me Do~I'm Your Doggie-Do!

Lightarted Living: Love, Love Me Do~I'm Your Doggie-Do!: The Doggie Love Song Love, Love me do. You know I love you. I'm your doggie-do. I'll always be true. So please love me ...

Love, Love Me Do~I'm Your Doggie-Do!



The Doggie Love Song

Love, Love me do.
You know I love you.
I'm your doggie-do.
I'll always be true.
So please love me do.

Love, Love me do.
I'm your Bailey-Bo.
I'll always be true.
So please love me too!

With Thanks to The Beatles for the Doggie Love Song!




Shannon McGough Hawkins posted this sweet picture of her
Bailey with his 'I'm so cute I deserve a treat' face.



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Sunday, June 30, 2019

Lightarted Living: Moving Beyond Hidden Shame: How to Overcome the Fe...

Lightarted Living: Moving Beyond Hidden Shame: How to Overcome the Fe...: "Our willingness to own and engage with our vulnerability determines the depth of our courage and our clarity of purpose ."   ...

Moving Beyond Hidden Shame: How to Overcome the Fear of Being Exposed


"Our willingness to own and engage with our vulnerability determines the depth of our courage and our clarity of purpose."  

Brene Brown




Deep Listening Reveals Hidden Shame in us All

The way most of us shun being vulnerable, you'd think there was something shameful about showing our soft underbelly or sharing our struggles. 

But if you're willing to sit quietly and listen deeply to others--without judgment and without interruption--you'll quickly learn you're not alone. When you truly listen with compassion, others will open up and share their pain and shame with you and you'll discover how much you have in common.

As I've listened to others share what has been going on in their lives 'shame' has arisen time and again as a deep-seated emotion hidden from view keeping people from fully-engaging in life and relationships. 

A while ago I received this email from a long time and far-away friend: 

"As you likely know, I suffer crippling performance anxiety. In reading Brene Brown's book Daring Greatly this morning, it became obvious that shame, vulnerability, guilt, feeling unloved, unworthy and not being included come from the same place. All this makes me afraid to spend extended time with all but a small number of people, invite folks to my house for lunch or dinner, take dancing lessons, go on dates without flagellating myself afterwards, remembering previous errors and repeating them in my mind, and so on -- I'm almost 65 and not living a genuine, engaged life, yet.

Oddly, taking risks and having positive outcomes has had little long lasting impact -- the pre and post process is still excruciating.

I think your hearts would help me develop shame resilience, as Brene Brown calls it. Do you have a series for this? If not, would you create one?

I'm including others in my  email because I think it helps to expose shame and vulnerability to the air and not feel so alone in it." 

SB


You're not Alone, SB!

What Makes You Feel Vulnerable and Exposed?

SB is not alone in her hidden shame--or in her desire to move beyond the 'secret' fear people may discover she's not good enough making her feel raw and exposed. So many things make us feel vulnerable and ashamed. What is it for you?


What makes you feel totally vulnerable and exposed?

✅Admitting you have a chronic disease or 'something wrong with' your body
✅Thinking you're not good enough exactly as you are
✅Getting laid off
✅Applying for a job
✅Asking for a date
✅Admitting you're unemployed or struggling in a new job
✅Feeling you're left behind 
✅Asking for help
✅Admitting you're lonely
✅Knowing you've been abused or neglected
✅Stating you love someone before you know how they feel about you
✅Thinking you need to lose weight or change your body shape
✅Putting yourself or your work 'out there' publicly
✅Stating what you want or who you are to the world
✅Admitting you feel shame


The thought of personally putting one of these things out in the world makes me squirm in discomfort. I like to appear worthy, strong and in control of my life at all times. The thought of coming clean about any of these gives me pause--yet what's so bad about admitting any of these things anyway?




What's hiding behind the closed door? Shameful thoughts--I'm not good enough; I'm not worthy; I'm imperfect; or there's something wrong with me.


The Unexpected Consequences of Bad Thoughts

What's startling is when you look behind our need to hide the last part of our tale you'll discover a sense of shame is driving the cover up. I know-- really embarrassing to admit. Kind of gives you the shame shudders to realize the thoughts behind the need to hide:  I'm not good enough; I'm not worthy; I'm imperfect; or there's something wrong with me. 


According to Brene Brown, author of  'Daring Greatly', 'The Gifts of Imperfection' and TED Talk, 'The Power of Vulnerability', shame is the fear of disconnection--we think there is something so shameful about us that if people really knew us they would reject us--so we keep our mouth shut and stay invisible.

The unexpected consequences of thinking this way is it keeps us from being seen, heard, and known by others. Through our secret negative thoughts we bring on the very thing we fear--a feeling of disconnection and distance from others.


The Inner Conflict--The Desire to be Seen vs. Invisible

I'm fascinated by a duality of thought I've witnessed in myself--and I suspect is present in you too. Although I live my life in a 'naturally authentic what you see is what you get' way, there is another hidden truth at work deep within me. As I show myself so completely in the world I am also acutely aware of how much remains hidden and unseen by others. I am a master at artfully keeping myself hidden in plain sight.




I once read that an artist is a person who has an overwhelming desire to be seen at the very same time she has an overwhelming desire not to be found. I don't think you need to be an artist to find this conflicting thought at work within yourself.

Consider that moment you showed up for a job interview, first date, public speaking engagement, or first day on the job. What was your internal dialogue?  There's always that singular moment when we feel vulnerable and exposed---and that's the moment we want to be seen, heard and known and it's the very same moment we want to retreat, be invisible and keep quiet.




Crisis--Dangerous Opportunity

We all experience these private moments of trepidation at the very moment of exposure. Think of them as mini-crises. A crisis is merely a turning point--a moment in time when an important decision is made. The Chinese symbol for crisis is two pronged with the meaning dangerous opportunity.

Another unexpected consequence of your negative thoughts is when you acknowledge them as natural consequences of stepping into your life you give yourself choice and opportunity. It always feels dangerous to be seen, to be heard and to be known. It is also thrilling. 
To step into your life and achieve your heart's desire you must experience, then walk past, the fear of not being worthy or good enough. Choose to see this moment of fear as your 'dangerous opportunity' and consciously chose to step out of the danger into the opportunity.



Choose to Be Seen, Choose to Connect

💓Practice finding your courage in your moments of crises and decide to show yourself instead of hiding. The more consciously you practice this, the better you'll get at stepping into the opportunities that are always present in your life.

💙In 'Four Steps to Authentic Communication' Robert Holden shares a Zulu greeting so simple and direct it's worthy of practicing it in your head even if it unnerves you too much to say out loud. When you come into the presence of another person face one another, look directly into each other's eyes and say 'I'm here to be seen'. The other person replies, 'I see you'.

💙Choose to be seen and choose to connect. Practice stepping out into your life, knowing you have value and wealth inside you worthy of sharing. Your vulnerability and imperfections are what make you lovable and human. Choose to use them to your advantage. 



Hello? I see you.



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Thursday, June 27, 2019