Lightarted Living: Acting with Grace Under Pressure

Lightarted Living: Acting with Grace Under Pressure:   When you're well rested and secure with yourself you have no need to lash out at others and you're able to act with grace under pressure.

Acting with Grace Under Pressure

 

When you're well rested and secure with yourself you have no need to lash out at others and you're able to act with grace under pressure. 

The Desire to Slap that Person 

Okay, I get it--as pressure mounts and deadlines loom you desperately want to slap that critical, judgmental person standing on the sidelines telling you (and others) what you're doing wrong while failing to help move things forward. It would be so easy and feel so good to match her bad behavior--tit for tat; stone for stone.

But just because she demonstrates bad behavior doesn't mean you should. It doesn't help you in the moment of pressure and it doesn't help you in the long-run.

Learning to Act with Grace under Pressure

We all imagine what we'd like to do to other people when we're under pressure. It's only natural to imagine a quick 'fight or flight' reaction when you feel threatened.  But you're always training yourself--and your brain--by your choices. When you succumb to reacting under pressure you train yourself to stay in the part of the brain that is reactive instead of moving to that part that allows you to take a more even, graceful approach under pressure.

 Think of it this way: bad, reactive, obnoxious behavior is a result of feeling out-of-control while thoughtful, measured, graceful behavior is a result of feeling secure and in-control. You need to ask yourself which path you want to take--in-control or out-of-control.

People who feel out-of-control are easy to spot. They're the ones trying to control the environment and everyone else. They throw tantrums and blame others. Controlling people fear things are going to fall apart unless they force the situation and berate others. The truth is, it is the controlling person who feels most insecure and out-of-control.

"Choose to make life choices that result in you feeling more secure and in-control of your life."

You can learn to act with grace under pressure by making it a life choice that guides your daily actions.

"When you choose to act gracefully under pressure you commit to suspending judgment and practicing the pause whenever the urge to lash out comes over you"

Choose to act in a way you can look back in 20 years and be proud of yourself. When you make a life decision to take the path of feeling secure and in-control you'll slow down in moments of pressure, and pause to find your center.

Why 'practice the pause' when you're under pressure? 

We all need down time to clear our heads 

if we are to act gracefully under pressure.

In the short term, don't hand control of your emotions over to other people. When you're under pressure, the last thing you need is an energy-drain. Gather your energy and clear your head by removing yourself from the situation to center yourself. 

Acting with Grace Under Pressure

 

When you're well rested and secure with yourself you have no need to lash out at others and you're able to act with grace under pressure. 

The Desire to Slap that Person 

Okay, I get it--as pressure mounts and deadlines loom you desperately want to slap that critical, judgmental person standing on the sidelines telling you (and others) what you're doing wrong while failing to help move things forward. It would be so easy and feel so good to match her bad behavior--tit for tat; stone for stone.

But just because she demonstrates bad behavior doesn't mean you should. It doesn't help you in the moment of pressure and it doesn't help you in the long-run.

Learning to Act with Grace under Pressure

We all imagine what we'd like to do to other people when we're under pressure. It's only natural to imagine a quick 'fight or flight' reaction when you feel threatened.  But you're always training yourself--and your brain--by your choices. When you succumb to reacting under pressure you train yourself to stay in the part of the brain that is reactive instead of moving to that part that allows you to take a more even, graceful approach under pressure.

 Think of it this way: bad, reactive, obnoxious behavior is a result of feeling out-of-control while thoughtful, measured, graceful behavior is a result of feeling secure and in-control. You need to ask yourself which path you want to take--in-control or out-of-control.

People who feel out-of-control are easy to spot. They're the ones trying to control the environment and everyone else. They throw tantrums and blame others. Controlling people fear things are going to fall apart unless they force the situation and berate others. The truth is, it is the controlling person who feels most insecure and out-of-control.

"Choose to make life choices that result in you feeling more secure and in-control of your life."

You can learn to act with grace under pressure by making it a life choice that guides your daily actions.

"When you choose to act gracefully under pressure you commit to suspending judgment and practicing the pause whenever the urge to lash out comes over you"

Choose to act in a way you can look back in 20 years and be proud of yourself. When you make a life decision to take the path of feeling secure and in-control you'll slow down in moments of pressure, and pause to find your center.

Why 'practice the pause' when you're under pressure? 

We all need down time to clear our heads 

if we are to act gracefully under pressure.

In the short term, don't hand control of your emotions over to other people. When you're under pressure, the last thing you need is an energy-drain. Gather your energy and clear your head by removing yourself from the situation to center yourself. 

Lightarted Living: If You're Too Tired to Speak Sit Next to Me~I Too ...

Lightarted Living: If You're Too Tired to Speak Sit Next to Me~I Too ...: 

If You're Too Tired to Speak Sit Next to Me~I Too am Fluent in Silence

"So, if you are too tired to speak,

Sit next to me, because

I, too, am fluent in silence."

R. Arnold

Sometimes when life speeds up, 

and you're overwhelmed keeping up with 

multiple life changes and expectations, 

you forget to take your down time right when

you need moments of quiet in your day.

  When you're tired; 

When you don't want to interact;

When you don't want to speak or think; 

Take moments in your day to do nothing.

Lose the expectations. 

Regain your center.

Take that lunch break; 

Don't allow others to invade 

your much needed down time.

Start your day and week with a plan. 

When others unwittingly attempt 

to disrupt your scheduled lunch break

give them other options. 

If they must meet with you 

during your scheduled lunch,

schedule your lunch at another time

or leave work earlier. 

Failing to take your break 

is not an option.

To be your best productive self

you need to approach 

your work with a fresh mind.

You are not doing yourself or your work

any favors when you give up your

much needed work break.

When you're healing from surgery or illness

let others know how you want to communicate.

People want to support you 

but text and email messages 

may be better than phone calls.

No matter our situation, 

we all need the healing of silence daily. 

To be your best and offer your best,

replace the expectation of 

always being available to others

with the expectation that you'll always 

take time for yourself.

Taking care of others and doing your best

on the job requires you to first and foremost 

care for yourself.

Silence is Golden.

Thank you to Colleen McGinn for the

photograph of ice cream tulips. 

If You're Too Tired to Speak Sit Next to Me~I Too am Fluent in Silence

"So, if you are too tired to speak,

Sit next to me, because

I, too, am fluent in silence."

R. Arnold

Sometimes when life speeds up, 

and you're overwhelmed keeping up with 

multiple life changes and expectations, 

you forget to take your down time right when

you need moments of quiet in your day.

  When you're tired; 

When you don't want to interact;

When you don't want to speak or think; 

Take moments in your day to do nothing.

Lose the expectations. 

Regain your center.

Take that lunch break; 

Don't allow others to invade 

your much needed down time.

Start your day and week with a plan. 

When others unwittingly attempt 

to disrupt your scheduled lunch break

give them other options. 

If they must meet with you 

during your scheduled lunch,

schedule your lunch at another time

or leave work earlier. 

Failing to take your break 

is not an option.

To be your best productive self

you need to approach 

your work with a fresh mind.

You are not doing yourself or your work

any favors when you give up your

much needed work break.

When you're healing from surgery or illness

let others know how you want to communicate.

People want to support you 

but text and email messages 

may be better than phone calls.

No matter our situation, 

we all need the healing of silence daily. 

To be your best and offer your best,

replace the expectation of 

always being available to others

with the expectation that you'll always 

take time for yourself.

Taking care of others and doing your best

on the job requires you to first and foremost 

care for yourself.

Silence is Golden.

Thank you to Colleen McGinn for the

photograph of ice cream tulips. 

Lightarted Living: Birthing a Butterfly

Lightarted Living: Birthing a Butterfly:   With the Gentleness of a Butterfly Wing   Fiona, butterfly # 62 whispers goodbye and thank you, Debi.   Such a small act of kind...

With the Gentleness of a Butterfly Wing

 

Fiona, butterfly # 62 whispers goodbye

and thank you, Debi.

 

Such a small act of kindness

you provide

one caterpillar,

one cocoon,

one butterfly at a time.

 

Such tender loving care

you provide;

giving us a safe environment

with food and shelter

as we morph

from one stage to another;

watching over us daily

to set us free at the moment

of our destiny.

 

With great care, 

and the gentleness of a butterfly wing,

You release us back to nature

and watch as we spread our wings

and fly away

on our long journey

and short life

to continue birthing butterflies 

for the goodness and beauty of life

for many generations to come.

Care for nature and those around you 

with the gentleness of a butterfly wing.

We are all birthing butterflies in our lives.

What are the butterflies that you're birthing now?

What beauty are you nurturing now 

to release into the world for the good of us all?

Birthing a Butterfly

 

With the Gentleness of a Butterfly Wing

 

Fiona, butterfly # 62 whispers goodbye

and thank you, Debi.

 

Such a small act of kindness

you provide

one caterpillar,

one cocoon,

one butterfly at a time.

 

Such tender loving care

you provide;

giving us a safe environment

with food and shelter

as we morph

from one stage to another;

watching over us daily

to set us free at the moment

of our destiny.

 

With great care, 

and the gentleness of a butterfly wing,

You release us back to nature

and watch as we spread our wings

and fly away

on our long journey

and short life

to continue birthing butterflies 

for the goodness and beauty of life

for many generations to come.

Care for nature and those around you 

with the gentleness of a butterfly wing.

We are all birthing butterflies in our lives.

What are the butterflies that you're birthing now?

What beauty are you nurturing now 

to release into the world for the good of us all?

Lightarted Living: She Let Go and Let it All Be: Rev Safire Rose

Lightarted Living: She Let Go and Let it All Be: Rev Safire Rose:   

Be Like a Leaf Falling from a Tree

Like a leaf falling from a tree,

Let go... and let it all be.

Enjoy your life as it truly can be.

Make up with loved ones,

Let anger fall away;

 Choose to be happy.

Enjoy the day.

Feel the lightness,

Feel the breeze,

Feel the joy.

Fall into the ease.

Love one another,

Give someone a hug,

Breathe a big sigh,

and let it all be.

Let the sun and the moon

Shine forevermore,

Let your heart shine bright

so you love more and more.

Let it be so until you're no more.

Susan J Meyerott

Be Like a Leaf Falling from a Tree

Like a leaf falling from a tree,

Let go... and let it all be.

Enjoy your life as it truly can be.

Make up with loved ones,

Let anger fall away;

 Choose to be happy.

Enjoy the day.

Feel the lightness,

Feel the breeze,

Feel the joy.

Fall into the ease.

Love one another,

Give someone a hug,

Breathe a big sigh,

and let it all be.

Let the sun and the moon

Shine forevermore,

Let your heart shine bright

so you love more and more.

Let it be so until you're no more.

Susan J Meyerott

A responsoral to 

"She Let Go and Let it All Be"

By Rev Safire Rose