Burned Out? Lose the Guilt and Take a Do-Nothing Day

Sit, rest, work
Susan J Meyerott, artist

'All know the way, but few actually walk it.'  Bodhidharma

Sit, Rest, Work

Sit, rest, work--what a simple, harmonious '3-legged stool' for balanced living. This is truly the answer to how to live a calm, thoughtful, composed life instead of one that always puts you in the overwhelmed mode. 

Yet when you think about it, how likely are you to balance your days in such a way that you are 'never weary' and 'living joyfully, without desire'? How often do you make yourself feel weary to the bone through driving yourself to accomplish at a non-stop, frenetic pace? 

Consider how you balanced your life in just the last three days:

• Did you have a balance of Sit, Rest, Work or an imbalance of work, work, work? 
• Did your life imbalance  leave you feeling weary, guilt-ridden, and wishing for a day off?

Balance Your Life with the 'Sit and Do Nothing' Exercise

The only way to get the most out of your life and the best out of yourself is to regularly give yourself time to recoup your energy through the 'sit and do nothing' exercise. 

Lose the guilt. Lose the expectations. Be unproductive. Give yourself time to breathe and relax instead. Strive to do nothing. Let your mind wander.

Begin with five minutes just to get you started--then work up to more 'do-nothing' time. 

In order to get stronger and more fit, your brain and your body need times of rest. It is during the rest periods your body and mind heal and grow stronger. If you never give yourself down time, your body and mind break down from overuse. So stop holding on to the belief you will accomplish more by keeping yourself in a constant state of stress. The path to your best self is paved with good doses of sitting and relaxing mixed in with the work.

So what are you waiting for? Go waste your time and enjoy doing nothing!

'Before complaining that you are a slave to another, be sure that you are not a slave to self. Look within: You will find there, perchance, slavish thoughts, slavish desires, and in your daily life and conduct slavish habits. Conquer these; cease to be a slave to self, and no man will have the power to enslave you.' James Allen

Sit, rest, work heart
Susan J Meyerott, artist

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Get Over Yourself: Stop Sulking and Get On with Your Life

I Let Go of Bitterness and Renew my Trusting Heart
Susan J Meyerott, Affirmation Artist

What's Keeping You Stuck? 

We all have times we feel stuck or sorry for ourselves as life isn't going the way we want it to go. While it's okay to sit in it, feeling totally miserable for a while, when you're ready to get over it--snap out of it and move on.

The truth is, sometimes you just have to be miserable enough to spur yourself into thinking about your life differently, or to nudge you into action. Here I share one of my favorite life planning exercises to help you actively step into a life that matters.

The Most Important Exercise You'll Ever Do--and Love to Hate: Getting to the Core of What Matters

This is a simple exercise that takes very little time to do. There's just one catch: You have to start it, and then follow through one step at a time.

The hardest thing about starting this exercise is like so many people, you may find it uncomfortable to think about what you want or what matters to you. I've had people describe this and other such life planning exercises as the most important exercise they ever did but loved to hate. So get over your discomfort and take action anyway.

If you're tired of being bored, lonely or disappointed with life, take time to do the exercise. By limiting the time you take to answer these questions to 2 minutes you'll ease your discomfort.

The Abundance of the Universe comes to me Freely
Susan J Meyerott, Affirmation Artist

Imagine you have 6 months to live. All activities around your death have been taken care of. What things would you want to accomplish or do? How would you enjoy spending your last days?

1. Take two minutes to list everything you'd like to do without judging what's on the list.

2. Next take another two minutes to look over your list and refine, add to, eliminate.

3. Last look at your list and ask yourself how many of the things on your list are you currently doing.

4. Pick one thing on your list to do then commit to one step. Pursue it until you've had enough then pick another one and go after that. 

I Completely Open to Life and Joy
Susan J Meyerott, Affirmation Artist

Just Do It--Actively Engage

Now is the time for you to act. Life is short. Don't think about it too much; just do it. 

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8 Signs He (She) is not that Into You

Each Moment of My Life is New, Fresh and Vital
Susan J Meyerott, artist

Are you in a Pretend Relationship?

• Are you in a relationship that leaves you feeling stupid, duped, betrayed, sad, and angry?
• Are you trying hard to make it work but feel you're getting no where? 
• Is it time for a reality check? 

How do you know if he/she is really that into you or it's time to move on?

Eight Warning Signs You're in a Pretend Relationship

• He professes his great love and admiration for you in private but keeps your relationship a secret from others.
• She texts you daily to see what you're up to but never makes time to spend with you.
• He texts you in the evening to see what you're doing before telling you he's going out with friends.
• She relates better from a distance than face-to-face.
• The amount of time he actively chooses to spend with you getting to know you is very little compared to the amount of time he's communicated with you through texting or happenstance sleepovers.
• You leave interactions with her feeling resentful, distant, hurt or sad.
• You find yourself making excuses for him because he works so hard and that's why he doesn't have time to spend with you (although he has time to go out with friends).
• You feel apathetic about the relationship due to her actions--what she does or fails to do.

Trust the Wisdom Within
Susan J Meyerott, artist

Got Courage? 

Finding a compatible mate takes courage and a willingness to get hurt. The mating dance is rarely straightforward and uncomplicated--even with that person you may end up with for a lifetime.

Nothing is wrong with you if you find yourself dealing yet again with someone who's seemingly not that into you. It's just part of the dance and you learning how best to navigate the murky waters of relationships. 

To succeed in relationships you must stay the course and step into the relationship waters at high tide.

How Do You Know if its Time to Move On--or Stay the Course?

Trust Yourself. When you're in the center of an emotional fog you may question if you can trust what you think. What you can trust are your strong emotions telling you to pay attention and your ability to use friends and or family to talk things through so you can hear yourself think before talking with your love interest. And trust yourself to be on a search for the truth--staying open to whatever truth you uncover. 

Listen to your Emotions. Your emotions are very powerful antennas letting you know when things are going in the right or wrong direction.  Feelings of being stupid or duped are very real but that doesn't mean you are stupid or naive. Your strong (smart) feelings are telegraphing you need to pay attention and take a conscious look at what is happening in the relationship--and shore up your boundaries.

Trust Your Friends/Family. Who do you have to confide in who listens to you without judging you or the situation? Your trusted friends and family can serve as mirrors reflecting your truth back to you and helping you see the situation more clearly. 

Be Yourself. When you're on a search for the truth, when interacting with your love interest you need to be true to who you are. You want to be in a relationship with someone you can be yourself. 

Be Honest with Yourself--and Act Accordingly 

Questions to ask yourself:

• Is the relationship worth the trouble?
• What percent of the time you have known each other have you actually spent time together--and felt closely connected?
• When you stop giving him/her 'the benefit of the doubt' and remove all excuses you make about why s/he doesn't spend more time with you--how much time do you really spend together?
• What do your friends and family think of him (or her)? If they've never met him, you don't have a real relationship. Your friends and family love and care about you. They can have their fraud antenna up when yours is missing in action.
• Do his friends and family know you exist?
• Is it time to cut your losses and move on?

I Experience Love Wherever I Go
Susan J Meyerott, artist

3 Guiding Principles

• Be Yourself--Wholeheartedly and 100%
• Set Appropriate Boundaries--Make your actions in private match the level of the stated relationship in public
• Shine light on the relationship. Check in with friends and family to get their impressions. 

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For more than 30 years, Susan Meyerott has been helping people lighten up and step over invisible barriers to change one step at a time. She speaks to your heart, puts you at ease, and makes changing easier than ever before.


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