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Friday, August 24, 2012

Don't be pushed by your problems. Be led by your dreams. Ralph Waldo Emerson

'It's the possibility of having a dream come true that makes life interesting'
Paulo Coelho

Man's Search for Meaning

Sometimes in the overwhelming challenge of trying to find work in this economy, or attempting to recover from a devastating break up of a relationship or loss of a loved one, you can be left feeling discouraged, hopeless and isolated. Looking through the lens of defeat and loss, life can begin to feel flat and meaningless.

The key to pulling out of the darkness is to change the filter you look through to gain a fresh perspective. Or as Ralph Waldo Emerson said, "Don't be pushed by your problems. Be led by your dreams."

When you're dispirited and feeling low it may feel like an impossible task to change your perspective. You don't exactly feel perky and positive. Yet, changing your focus from your problems and the seemingly insurmountable obstacles you face to putting the focus back on creating a life based on your dreams and aspirations is the only way out.

I Know it Hurts--Just Push into the Pain

When I was in labor with my first child I failed to dilate fully so my doctor manually stretched me during the contractions that occurred one minute apart. This was the most painful and seemingly never ending process I've ever experienced. I could barely remain conscious the pain was so excruciating.

With contractions coming every minute, I would fall into a deep sleep for 45 seconds before the contractions would wake me up and the unbearable pain would start all over. As the doctor stretched me (60 times an hour) he kept saying 'I know it hurts, just push into the pain'. It took all my resolve not to kick him in the groin and tell him 'YOU push into the pain!'

But even in my darkest moment somewhere in the deep recesses of my mind I knew when I eventually got out of what turned out to be 24 hours of hard labor, that comment, 'I know it hurts, just push into the pain', would become a metaphor for my life.

If Pain is the Teacher, What's the Lesson?

Birthing a new life--literally or figuratively has it's painful moments--but when you push into the pain and stay focused on your dreams you move through it to gain a new life. It isn't always pleasant or easy but when you achieve a dream it's worth it in the end.

There is no way to avoid or go around the the painful part of life on our way to achieving our dreams. No one 'has it easy'. But if we keep our eyes on the goal, instead of the obstacles, we allow ourselves to be led by our dreams instead of pushed by our problems, making it easier to endure the difficulties along the way.

Are You Ready to Turn it Around?

  • Where have you felt pushed by your problems? 
  • If you were led by your dreams what would you do differently? 
  • If you had all the time and money in the world, what would you do with your life? 

Within your Heart keep one, still secret spot where dreams may go....

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Jean | Delightful Repast said...

Sue, just one word: Beautiful!

Susan J Meyerott, M.S. said...

Thanks, Jean.


Grant - mBraining said...

Hey Sue, great post! Absolutely spot on! And love the way you have turned the focus around.

From an mBIT (multiple Brain Integration Techniques) perspective, the focusing on dreams is about overcoming the 'disheartening' effect of problems by bringing the heart focus onto the prime function of the heart brain around dreams, values and purpose. And from this, the gut brain kicks in and you begin to get motivated towards action. So the head, heart and gut realign around purpose. Now isn't that a brilliant way to turn it all around!

smiles, Grant

Susan J Meyerott, M.S. said...

Grant--I love how our heart minds connect and align across the oceans. I appreciate you adding your mBIT perspective--showing how the head, heart and gut realign around purpose. That IS a brilliant way to turn it around!

Cheers! Sue

Madeline Vance said...

Once again have opened up to truths that speak with love to the soul. I'm so happy to have met and know you. Thanks for signing me up to your blog, I read each one and get uplifted.

Susan J Meyerott, M.S. said...

Madeline--I am so glad you are getting uplifted. We all must speak with love to our soul!

Hugs, Susan