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“There is only one way to happiness and that is 

to cease worrying about things 

which are beyond the power of our will.”

Epictetus

 “Thousands of candles can be lighted from a single candle, 

and the life of the candle will not be shortened. 

Happiness never decreases by being shared.”

Buddha

“Don’t underestimate the value of Doing Nothing, 

of just going along, listening to all the things you can’t hear, 

and not bothering.”

Winnie the Pooh

“We tend to forget that happiness 

doesn’t come as a result of getting something we don’t have, 

but rather of recognizing and appreciating what we do have.”

Frederick Keonig

“Happiness depends upon ourselves.”

Aristotle

“We begin from the recognition that all beings cherish happiness 

and do not want suffering. It then becomes both morally wrong 

and pragmatically unwise to pursue only one’s own happiness 

oblivious to the feelings and aspirations of all others 

who surround us as members of the same human family. 

The wiser course is to think of others 

when pursuing our own happiness.”

Dalai Lama

“In every moment we have a chance to make a choice 

to bring light into the world. When we bless others 

with the gift of our positive energy, instead of letting 

circumstances affect us negatively, 

we bring a little peace to the world every day.”

Madisyn Taylor

“Since you get more joy out of giving joy to others, 

you should put a good deal of thought 

into the happiness that you are able to give.”

Eleanor Roosevelt

“When I look back on all these worries, 

I remember the story of the old man 

who said on his deathbed 

that he had had a lot of trouble in his life, 

most of which had never happened.”

Winston Churchill

“Happiness is something that comes into our lives 

through doors we don’t even remember leaving open.”

Rose Wilder Lane

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Bloom where You're Planted~Live a Sweet, Fruitful Life

Each Moment of My Life is New, Fresh, Vital and Yummy

What do you want to Harvest Today? 

💓We reap what we sow--so what are you sowing in that fertile brain of yours? 
💙What seeds are you planting daily? 
💛What are you doing today to grow a sweet and fruitful life that allows you to bloom where you're planted?

There's no time like the present to plant new seeds. 

Live a Yummy Life!
Take a BIG bite of life and let the sweetness envelope you!

Life is Good. All is Well.

My Future is Bright, Joyous and Secure. All is Well.

Refresh your Belief in Life and Yourself daily

Give the World the Best you have 
and it may never be Enough.

Give Your Best Anyway.  

Mother Teresa

Choose a Sweet and Fruitful Life
Put Your Gifts to Work for the World

Life is but a Dream

Be in Awe

Bloom where you're Planted
and Stand Tall in the World

A BIG thank you to Sue Flynn and Steve Flurry for growing such a yummy pear. So fat, fresh, sweet and juicy--just like life!

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Anxious about Being Anxious? Turning the Volume Down on High Anxiety

Do You:

❓ Sometimes get overwhelmed by anxiety? 
❓ Worry about being worried?
❓ Wind yourself up feeling anxious about being anxious, or get stressed about being stressed?  

Stop it. There's nothing wrong with you experiencing anxiety or stress. While it's uncomfortable when anxiety takes up residence in your life, the solution is to turn the volume down, not up. Hyping yourself up by becoming anxious about being anxious does you no good.

Turning the Volume Down on Garden-Variety Anxiety 

Stress and anxiety are normal--and even helpful physiological signals--that help us more effectively deal with the challenges of life.  Turning the volume down on feeling anxious begins with accepting the uncomfortable feelings as a normal reaction to life.

Used properly stress and anxiety focus our attention on getting busy meeting the current challenges that are creating the anxiety. 

Used improperly--at the first whiff of anxiousness--we catastrophize the situation, hyperventilate, and blow up our ability to function effectively.

All is Well

Learn to turn your attention away from 'feeling anxious about being anxious' by reframing how you interpret those feelings. 

Change how you talk about anxiety. Try naming your creeping anxiousness as 'everyday garden-variety' anxiety instead of 'something's terribly wrong with me' anxiety. Choose to be comfortable being uncomfortable, and change your viewpoint so you see anxiety is serving a useful purpose--as it's intended.   

If you let it, anxiety can serve as a penetrating signal for you to act and move your life forward instead of turning you into a nervous wreck. The key is to respond to the annoying signal with appropriate action.

Let Anxiety Work in your Favor

None of us likes feeling anxious but we can learn to befriend the feelings. Yes, free floating anxiety is a bit like someone continually poking you with a hot poker. After a while it gets on your nerves and all you want to do is get away from it and lash out at someone. 

But just like the physiological feedback you'd get from touching a hot stove, anxious feelings show you what you want to move away from as quickly as possible at the same time it prods you to step into actions that move you towards what you want quicker. 

Become a Master at Quieting Anxiety

It doesn't matter how anxious you are. What matters is your ability to deal with anxiety. 

Never underestimate your ability to master the art of dealing with anxiety through consciously choosing to change your outlook, logical reasoning or circumstances to turn the volume down.

Sometimes your life circumstances demand great persistence to overcome road blocks to your goals turning your anxiety up. But every time you persist and overcome those challenges you strengthen your mastery of life--showing yourself you have all the ingredients to successfully handle life and quiet anxiety. 

  As Anna Freud noted:

"It is not the presence or absence, the quality, or even the quantity of anxiety which allows predictions as to future mental health or illness; what is significant in this respect is only the ability to deal with anxiety."    Anna Freud, 1965

In her new book 'Under Pressure: Confronting the Epidemic of Stress and Anxiety in Girls', Lisa Damour, Ph.D. sheds more light on who gets through the stressful experiences better:

"The children whose outlook for mental health is better are those who cope with the same danger situations actively by way of resources such as intellectual understanding, logical reasoning, changing of external circumstances...by mastery instead of retreat."

Sometimes Life is a High-Wire Act 

Sometimes life can feel like a high-wire act, with one wrong move and it all comes tumbling down. But to train for a high-wire act you focus on developing the skills and mastering the moves to keep yourself up and moving forward rather than focusing on the fear and self-doubt created by looking at the ground. 

Cope with anxiety-producing situations through mastery instead of retreat, by use of intellectual understanding, logical reasoning and changing of external circumstances.

Stop 'awfulizing' your situation. Choose a life strategy for dealing with anxiety-producing situations head on.  And keep on keeping on. 

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Lightarted Living: Getting Past Self-Doubt

Lightarted Living: Getting Past Self-Doubt: Being Koi Sometimes it's hard work putting yourself out in the world. Every time you're faced with a moment of transition i...

Getting Past Self-Doubt

Being Koi

Sometimes it's hard work putting yourself out in the world. Every time you're faced with a moment of transition in the workplace or on the home front, self-doubt and self-consciousness can float to the surface making you feel shy about putting yourself back out there. So how do you nudge yourself out of it?

Show up 

When you feel momentarily timid, take a tip from Koi and simply show up.  Stop being coy and hiding under a rock or in the weeds.  Be seen. Showing up is 80% of success.

Don't be coy, be KOI.

Who doesn't love sitting next to a Koi pond watching Koi gracefully move through the water. They aren't self-conscious about swimming and they don't overthink every move. They do what they were born to do: swim.

Accept you were born to swim with ease in big ponds and small. You'll naturally stand out when you show up and show yourself to be a willing and competent swimmer. Hiding behind a rock or in the weeds will do you no good. Stop overthinking and focus on swimming instead.

Be yourself and proudly swim into the thick of things. You are spectacular just as you are. 

If you want to stand out even without making a splash, Be Koi, not coy. 

We see ourselves for what we aren't; others see us for who we are.

 All Things Come to She who Baits

"Fishing is the pursuit of the elusive but attainable~a perpetual series of occasions for hope."    John Buchan 

Life can be thought of as a life-long fishing expedition in which we are 'in pursuit of the elusive but attainable~a perpetual series of occasions for hope'. This is an especially useful metaphor for dealing with work and landing the positions or clients you desire. 

As long as we keep sticking our pole in the water, we maintain hope we'll land the elusive but attainable fish we're after. And if we keep baiting the hook, eventually we'll land that fish. 

Notice, fish don't care how great a fisherman or woman you are. They care about the bait. This is true no matter the type of fish you're after--even clients or employers.

In moments when self-doubt arises, take the focus off you--the person--and put it on the bait for the fish you want to land. 

What is the alluring skill, talent or product the fish you want is attracted to?  What is the bait needed to land that particular fish? How can you bait that hook then sit back and wait?

I've always loved the Charlie Tuna commercial showing Charlie as a fish who prided himself as being a Tuna with 'good (artistic) taste' and the very clever tag-line, 'Sorry, Charlie; people want tuna that tastes good not tuna with good taste.' 

Like Charlie the Tuna, we need to stop focusing on ourselves and keep our eyes on how to fill a need--the bait--an employer or client wants. 

Bait and Switch

Sure, it matters how good a fisher you are when it's time to reel in the fish. But first you have to attract the fish and get it to bite--and that means letting the self-doubt go.

By doing a 'switch and bait'--switching from a self-conscious focus on yourself to a focus on the bait to attract the big fish--you open up oceans of possibilities for you to pursue without giving yourself another thought. 

Swimming in Possibilities

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Lightarted Living: The Ageless Wisdom of John Adams (Stumbled upon by...

Lightarted Living: The Ageless Wisdom of John Adams (Stumbled upon by...: Vincent's a Real Cool Cat While seeking a place for morning meditation Vincent finds a most harmonious and peaceful perch  ...

The Ageless Wisdom of John Adams (Stumbled upon by Vincent the Cat)

Vincent's a Real Cool Cat

While seeking a place for morning meditation

Vincent finds a most harmonious and peaceful perch 

atop Sue Fynn's cello music

simply humming with good energy

to tune his purr, and quietly waits.

Quietly Attracting the Best Mind-Set

With the sun, moon and stars in alignment,

good fortune places the book John Adams

adjacent to Vincent's meditation space for contemplation.

He positions his head to more comfortably align with

 John Adams and better absorb his wisdom.

"One only has to stare at a book 

to absorb the contents within", he thinks.

Thus Vincent begins his daily ritual of lying about, 

quietly attracting the best mind-set to help him 

be a better mouse trap and cat on this day--

another in a long line of auspicious days.

A Simple Melody in Harmony with Life Flows Through Us

Vincent purrs and effortlessly stares at the book's spine

before closing his eyes to consider the first bit of 

Adams wisdom to tickle his ears--

a simple melody in harmony with life:

🎜🎝

"To be good, and to do good,

is all we have to do."

John Adams

Vincent thinks it's okay to judge a book by it's cover. 

"Why look deeper when all you need to know is 

observed at first sight." 

Purring, he closes his eyes and contemplates

the perfectly articulated words to live by~

Doooooo Gooooood.

Within You is Everything You Need

Vincent allows the words of John Adams 

to gently flow through and around him:

"Let every sluice of knowledge be opened

and set a flowing."

John Adams

"Let us dare to think."

John Adams

That gets Vincent's tail twitching 

as thoughts of action surge through him.

He purrs thoughtfully as images 

of carefully orchestrated mouse trappings

parade across his mind preparing him 

for purrrrfect hunting success today.

Vincent relaxes in the knowledge he has within him

everything he needs to successfully meet the challenges of the day.

Seek an Open and Enlarged Mind

With his eyes still closed, Vincent quietly breaths in and out, 

while zeroing in on the tail-end of his John Adams meditation leading him 

to face his daily adventures with calm enthusiasm:

"I must judge for myself, but how can I judge--how can any CAT judge-- 

unless his mind has been opened and enlarged by reading."

"Let us tenderly and kindly cherish therefore, the means of knowledge. 

Let us dare to read, think, speak, and write."

John Adams

Vincent yawns and stretches as he allows Adams' thoughts 

to course through his veins. He accepts the importance of 

reading the situation and having his mind opened and enlarged 

so he can judge for himself the best way to attack life.

'Seek an opened and enlarged mind' 

seems to fit 'all we have to do is to do good', he purrs.

Be a Good Cat and Useful Citizen

"You will ever remember that all the end of study 

is to make you a good CAT and a useful citizen."

John Adams

As the clock chimes, 

Vincent opens his eyes, and slowly blinks 

as he contemplates Adams' final thoughts 

about the purr-pose of studying life--

'to make you a good cat and a useful citizen'.

Armed with the ageless wisdom of John Adams 

Vincent starts the day calmly and thoughtfully before he pounces.

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