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Mess Up? The Trick to Recovering from Mistakes

What Happens After You Mess Up? 

Mistakes happen. But according to brain research it's what happens after you mess up that's really interesting.

When you mess up, how do you react?  

😊Do you problem solve and figure out how to correct your error--and ultimately bounce back from making the error? 

😢Or do you feel stupid, inept and ultimately give up?

How You Think about Your Capacity to Grow Smarter Determines Your Reaction to Mistakes

It turns out whether you believe you can grow smarter or not determines how you'll respond to the mistakes you make--i.e. whether you'll choose to learn from your mistakes or just give up.

According to a **study looking at brain activity in response to making mistakes, people who believe they can learn from their mistakes have brains that pay more attention to mistakes--and they share a belief that intelligence isn't fixed--it can be shaped (i.e. we can learn from our mistakes).

👉If you believe your intelligence can be shaped you believe 'I learn from my mistakes', 'happy mistakes are good', or 'a mistake is just a learning experience' and you take action to rectify your mistake and move on.  

👉But if you believe 'you either have the smarts or you don't' --i.e. you believe in a 'fixed intelligence'--you fail to take actions to learn from your mistakes and just give up.

'Acting As If' is the Key to Tweak Your Thoughts to Recover from Mistakes

Okay, so now you know: You hold the key to bouncing back from making mistakes in your head. If you believe you can grow smarter you can make happy mistakes and learn from them. 

But what if you're one of the people who simply believes you're not smart?  Then you Act As If--and step over the invisible belief barrier to taking action. 

When you make a mistake or error--don't think--'act as if' and take action. 

Act As If:

💓You can learn from your mistakes and grow smarter--and take action.

💙You have confidence in yourself--and take action.
💚You can correct your mistakes--and take action

💛It matters that you know the correct answer to perform better in the future--and take action.

💜You are coachable--and take action.

Beliefs Follow Actions

Why does 'acting as if ' work?  Research shows if you want to change a belief, take action. When you experience a discrepancy between what you believe and how you act, you will change your beliefs to follow your actions. 

Acting as if you can grow smarter will result in you believing you can --and improve your ability to learn from your mistakes.

Our Brains Are Wired to Make Mistakes

We all want to be the best we can be and therefore hate making mistakes and looking stupid. But our brains are wired to make mistakes so errors are going to happen. 

When you make a mistake, stop thinking how stupid you are and step into problem solving instead. Get the most out of your life--show yourself you're someone who learns from you mistakes.

Stop trying to be mistake free and start using your happy mistakes as learning experiences and growth opportunities.

 'There are only two mistakes one can make along the road to truth; not going all the way, and not starting.' 

The Buddha 

**Many thanks to Grant Soosalu in Australia for sharing the study in his Life Enhancing Blog. Please visit Grant's blog @  http://enhancingmylife.blogspot.com/ or check out his book  "mBraining - Using your multiple brains to do cool stuff" on Amazon.

Change Your Behavior to Change Your Belief

Free Yourself to Make Happy Mistakes

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Bouncing Back from Stress and Burnout

Stop the World--I want to get off! 

"Fisherman have always known that the sea is dangerous and the storm is terrible, but they've never considered those sufficient reasons to remain ashore." 

Vincent Van Gogh 

 No question life is stressful. But that doesn't mean we can't rise to the challenge and find ways to not only weather those stressful and stormy days, but also practice the fine art of sailing through difficulties to arrive at calmer shores. 

Bouncing back after particularly stressful times requires us to consciously stop and start over~After we wind ourselves up we must consciously unwind.

After you step into the water at the high tide of stress you must consciously and deliberately step back into still waters to rest.

Train Your Body to Bounce Back from Stress

We're always training our bodies through the choices we make. To have the health and energy to cope and thrive despite experiencing world-wide and personal crises, we need to engage in activities that bring our stress hormones--like adrenaline and cortisol--back down to resting levels--especially after dealing with particularly stressful experiences.

The good news is humans have adapted to effectively deal with stress. We're especially equipped to deal with the stress that is life. Our bodies are built to get better and better at dealing with stress the more we're challenged by life's difficulties. But it's up to us to take the actions that train our bodies to be resilient so we're strengthened, not weakened by our experiences. 

Stress Won't Kill You--But not taking care of it will!

Think of stress as a perceived sense of:

👉Threat;

👉Loss of control;

👉Helplessness;

👉Hopelessness; and/or

👉Unpredictability

The instant something catches you off guard your brain downshifts into your lower brain-- moving you into a fight or flight mode (stress response)--and sets in motion the release of stress hormones, including cortisol and adrenaline. This is a good thing.

Stress-hormones help you react quickly by raising your heart rate and blood pressure, and releasing energy sources into the bloodstream, such as sugar, to make fuel available to your muscles. This is how your body helps you get through your daily crises.

But too much of a good thing becomes a problem if you fail to give your body time to recover from being in this high-stress mode.

Maintaining chronically high levels of the stress-hormone cortisol leads to three health damaging effects:

💥High blood sugar, leading to insulin resistance;

💥High blood pressure, and

💥An increase in abdominal fat.

 Fat deposited around your belly is associated with more health problems than fat deposited elsewhere, including an increased risk of heart attacks and strokes. 

To calm your cortisol and other stress-hormone levels you must recognize you're stressed, and engage in self-calming activities that produce the relaxation response in your body.  

You're either stressed or relaxed...you can't be both

The good news is it's physiologically impossible for you to be stressed and relaxed at the same time. When you make the decision to participate in activities that produce the relaxation response, your body will bounce back and re-balance.

How Do I Know if I'm Suffering from Chronic Stress? 

We're not always aware when we're in a constant state of stress. Sometimes we're working so hard to deal with the issues we ignore the signs and symptoms. Furthermore, when our heart rate goes above 100, our bodies release adrenaline that creates an emotional and mental fog that sends clear thinking out the window. 

We all have a stress signature that we can learn to cue us it's time to stop, unwind and participate in self-calming activities. You don't need to pay attention to every sign and symptoms of stress, you just have to pick out one and let that be your guide to readjusting what you're doing.

Do You Experience Any of these Signs and Symptoms of Chronic Stress?

☂ Chronic fatigue

☂ TMJ problems--clenching of teeth

☂ Moodiness

☂ Anxiety and Irritability

☂ Anger (fear managed by anger)

☂ Depression

☂ Hardening of the attitudes

☂ Feeling a loss of control

☂ Tearfulness

☂ Joint and muscle pain

☂ Digestive difficulties

☂ Sleeping difficulties

☂ Increased deposit of fat in the belly

☂ Craving carbohydrates

☂ Binge eating

☂ Preoccupation with a stressful situation

☂ Getting ill after finals or completion of a stressful project

☂ Getting sick on vacation

The Art of the Bounce Back

Begin by identifying the signs and symptoms you experience in response to stress, then choose one to be mindful of in your daily life. When you notice your stress signal is present, act, don't react to the information; and describe, don't judge what is going on.

Everyone gets stressed. If you discover you're chronically stressed, it doesn't mean you are weak, incompetent, out of control or a bad person. Leave the judgment out--describe what is going on and chose one immediate step to help you take a moment to relax.

Cortisol and Stress Calming Suggestions

💓Control what you can control.

💙Take action on the little things. 

💚Exercise for relaxation, not for hard core fitness.

💛Take a 5-15 minute walk break.

💜Have some black or green tea.

💓Find things to laugh about. Experiencing humor and laughter can lower cortisol levels.

💙Enjoy relaxing music.

💚Confide in a trusted friend. 

💛Get a good night's rest. If you're having difficulty sleeping, at least rest and practice focusing on your breathing, consciously slowing down your inhales and exhales.

💜Cry. Crying may be our bodies' way of eliminating stress-hormones from our system.

💓Supplement with magnesium and omega 3 fatty acids (found in fish oil, krill oil and flax seeds)

Don't let life difficulties beat you down. Choose to take actions that contribute to your self-confidence and well-being.  You're worth it.

 

The Serenity Prayer

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change;

The courage to change the things I can;

And the wisdom to know the difference.

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