"An optimist sees problems as challenges that are solvable. An optimist is hopeful and confident about the future because there are things they can do to influence the outcomes."
Tuesday, November 22, 2022
Lightarted Living: The Secrets of an Optimist for Getting thru Diffic...
Lightarted Living: The Secrets of an Optimist for Getting thru Diffic...: As an optimist I am not immune from being anxious, fearful, or overwhelmed by life. It’s what this optimist does with the fear and anxiety...
The Secrets of an Optimist for Getting thru Difficult Times
As an optimist I am not immune from being anxious, fearful, or overwhelmed by life. It’s what this optimist does with the fear and anxiety that makes it easier for me to get through difficult times better than most people.
When fear and anxiety raise the hackles of this optimist, it signals me to switch into a self-calming mode to blunt the negative thinking cycle of the brain while freeing me to step into an action mode.
At this moment, my husband has been in the ICU for a week with low sodium levels. It’s been touch and go, and there have been times he’s been unresponsive. Sodium levels must be raised very carefully and slowly.
Optimists, like me, see problems as challenges that are solvable. Problems are things to be dealt with in the moment, and left behind as we continue to seek a good life.
My husband's current health crisis has been scary to say the least. But I’ve maintained the belief I can do things to help--including getting him to the hospital and then giving the doctors and nurses time to work on the issue without my interference. I can also take care of myself so I have the strength to think clearly and be present for my husband. And I can provide my husband with a positive expectation for his improvement and sit with him each day to provide love and calmness.
As an optimist I’m hopeful and confident about the future because I always believe there are things I can do to influence the outcome. Then I actively take steps that could help, without worrying about whether those steps will actually help. That is, I accept the realities of life—bad things can still happen—but I continue to act in ways that could influence the outcome in a positive direction and I maintain a positive expectation for the future.
Keeping a positive expectation for the future, and continuing to take actions is what keeps me going.
"An optimist sees problems as challenges that are solvable. An optimist is hopeful and confident about the future because there are things they can do to influence the outcomes."
Monday, November 7, 2022
Lightarted Living: The Secrets of a Radiant Woman under Stress
Lightarted Living: The Secrets of a Radiant Woman under Stress:
Radiant Being, shining so bright,
Gathers the good and lets the bad pass.
All things that enter her body
Work for her good;
Creating the radiance and spreading the good.
The Secrets of a Radiant Woman under Stress
Radiant Being, shining so bright,
Gathers
the good and lets the bad pass.
All
things that enter her body
Work
for her good;
Creating
the radiance and spreading the good.
Radiant Woman,
Moving
through life
With
grace and ease;
~Always
listening for~
~Always
looking for~
Good
News.
Radiant
Woman
Always
gathering the musical energy of life~
Breathing the harmony;
Dreaming
the melody.
Radiance, Grace and Ease
follow her wherever she goes,
Lifting
her spirits and keeping her well;
Her
heart is filled with sunshine;
Her
soul is filled with gold.
The Secrets of a Radiant Woman
A
Radiant Woman is stress resilient;
She first and foremost fosters a positive mindset,
And
builds a reserve capacity to buffer stress.
A Radiant Woman
consciously creates narratives of optimism
to habitually perceive less threat and more challenge
during times of difficulty.
She
nurtures her optimism by always looking for
ways to
take positive actions
and ways
to create positive attitudes
especially during challenging
times~
when doubt, anxiety and fear creep in.
She first and foremost believes in
doing whatever it takes
to maintain a positive attitude.
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How to Nurture Your Optimism
Train Yourself to:
See More Challenge and Less Threat in Life
Always Look for and Listen for Good News in the Bad
When stressful experiences challenge
your positive mindset,
always take steps to rebuild your belief in
your ability to handle whatever life throws your way.
Ask yourself:
What would a Radiant Woman (Man) do under stress?
Am I willing to do whatever it takes
to overcome fear and anxiety?
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A Note About my own Search for Radiance
This post originated thru my own desire
to articulate to myself how I got through
8 months of treatment for breast cancer,
and how to best move forward with grace and ease.
The idea of being a Radiant Woman came from
my sister-in-law, Lee Bryant, who
after I completed radiation,
said to me "I never understood
why you needed any radiance treatment
when you are the most radiant person I know."
This made me laugh, but more importantly,
it showed me what I desire to take with me through
all my life experiences--A RADIANT SPIRIT.
I believe working to maintain an optimistic spirit thru
my cancer diagnosis, surgery, chemo and radiation
was the key to my getting through as well as I did.
I nurtured my belief that I could affect the outcome
and handle whatever life threw at me.
When fear and anxiety arose after the diagnosis
and my blood pressure shot up
I took positive steps to deal with it.
I contacted my doctor to
add blood pressure meds to my daily schedule.
And when a friend gifted me a relaxation-sound
therapy CD I chose to listen to it daily.
I took charge before starting chemotherapy by
engaging friends to walk me daily throughout
my 4 month treatment. I looked at those 4 months
as a time I had daily walks on the trail with friends,
not as a time I was doing chemo. Chemo was simply
something I fit into my walking schedule.
Putting a positive spin on the treatments helped too.
Getting chemo infusions became my Chemo Spa days,
where I was able to sit in a comfortable chair,
in a well lit room coloring and drawing and doing art.
Getting radiation became my radiance sessions.
What could be better than that?
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Feel the Fear and Do it Anyway
Sure, none of us know what the future holds.
But if you let fear and anxiety get you in its grip
during challenging times
it comes to live and sets up a negative
feedback loop that only creates
more fear about the future.
When you feel the fear during stressful times
choose to take positive actions anyway.
Step past the belief barriers preventing you
from taking positive action. Chose to engage in
actions that head you in a positive direction
even when you don't believe you can make
a difference in the outcome. Train yourself
to change your beliefs through your actions.
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