Tuesday, March 11, 2014

To Feel Good Act with Integrity

I have value and wealth inside me

'The man who cannot believe in himself cannot believe in anything else. The basis of all integrity and character is whatever faith we have in our own integrity.' Roy L. Smith 

Integrity--Don't Leave Home without it!


  • Who are you? How do you want to live your life?
  • How do you want others to see you? 
  • Are your internal beliefs in sync with your actions?
  • Twenty years from now, will you feel good about how you acted today?

I don't know about you, but when I have to speak up about something I know the other person isn't going to like I get that sick feeling in the pit of my stomach. 

I don't like conflict and I don't like hurting (or being hurt by) others so I'm always paralyzed into inaction while I ponder if and how I want to open my mouth. Even after I speak up--no matter how carefully I've crafted what I had to say--I still feel uneasy. 

But is this dis-ease around speaking my truth a bad thing? I don't think so. For me it is the short-term consequence to choosing to act with integrity. And acting with integrity is what makes me feel good overall about my life.

Your Life Path and Satisfaction Determined by Small Daily Decisions over a Lifetime. 

What difficult decisions do you face? In the last three days--what decisions did you face about how to conduct yourself? 

Life is full of intrigue and drama--especially in love and work. Every day you make decisions about getting in, staying in, or getting out of relationships. Your choices determine the course of your life and how satisfied you are. 

The one constant throughout your life is you--you are the only one who travels in your inner circle 24/7. 

You are the only one who sees behind your eyes and deep into your heart. Only you know whether you act with integrity.

Integrity: How do You Experience Yours?

While choosing to act with integrity may feel scary or uncomfortable when you're in the midst of turmoil, after the emotional fog lifts you can see this is what strengthens you for life ahead. 

Acting with integrity is what gives you the strength to be brave enough to speak up the next time in such a way as to achieve the best outcomes--despite the initial dis-ease.

Make a conscious decision to be strengthened, not hardened by your life experiences. 


"When you choose to act with integrity, you are strengthened by the experience; when you choose to act out of fear, anger, retaliation or hate, you are hardened by the experience."




What IS Integrity? Words to Live By

"Real integrity is doing the right thing, knowing that nobody's going to know whether you did it or not." Oprah Winfrey 

"The integrity of men is to be measured by their conduct, not by their words." Junius 

"Integrity means that you are the same in public as you are in private." Joyce Meyer 

"You are in integrity when the life you are living on the outside matches who you are on the inside." Alan Cohen 

"If you have integrity, nothing else matters. If you don't have integrity, nothing else matters." Alan K. Simpson 

"Integrity without knowledge is weak and useless, and knowledge without integrity is dangerous and dreadful." Samuel Johnson 

"Nothing more completely baffles one who is full of trick and duplicity, than straightforward and simple integrity in another." Charles Caleb Colton 

"Calamity is the test of integrity." Samuel Richardson 


"Tragedy in life normally comes with betrayal and compromise, and trading on your integrity and not having dignity in life. That's really where failure comes." Tom Cochrane 

"Perhaps the surest test of an individual's integrity is his refusal to do or say anything that would damage his self-respect." Thomas S. Monson 

"Goodness is about character - integrity, honesty, kindness, generosity, moral courage, and the like. More than anything else, it is about how we treat other people." Dennis Prager 


"Once you get rid of integrity the rest is a piece of cake." Larry Hagman 

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